Hmmm, what to do

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2003
Hmmm, what to do
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Sun, 01-30-2005 - 4:29am
Hi there. I'm not sure what to do here. Some advice would be great. I just met a guy online about 5 days ago and we had exchanged e-mails twice now. He says he wants to get to know me better and asked if i had msn. I said yes and gave it to him and he e-mailed me back saying hope to chat soon and i'm looking forward to meeting you. went online,it was fairly late and he seems like a day person so we agreed to chat some other time after a brief hi how are you kind of chat, he's on msn on his cell a lot but haven't talked since. I initated meeting him in the first place. What i'm wondering now is should I send an e-mail just to say hi to let him know I'm still interested or wait until he talks to me again? I really want to get to know him. His profile is great. Not sure what to do. Don't want to seem pushy. Thanks for any advice.:)
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: jenniex
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 6:03am
If you're looking for a relationship and not an instant message buddy then I'd let him know you had a good time, would like to see him again. And that's it. Ball is in his court. If you want to instant message him that's up to you but I wouldn't think that would be a suitable replacement for meeting again in real life.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: jenniex
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 10:02am
I would leave him alone since he already knows you are interested. I think something came up and someone/something else had caught his eye. I am a firm believer that in this early stage I would only reply/call once and wait for him to come back and if he doesn’t than it’s not worth bothering due to lack of interest. I think if a man likes you and is interested – he will find all kinds of possible ways to contact you and push for your date. But than again – someone here called me high maintenance.
My advice – don’t focus on this one guy – keep your options open. I found that for some sad reason on on-line dating if you appear too interested people think you are needy. I know it’s silly but I think there are a lot of superficial folks out there who like to play mind games.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2003
In reply to: jenniex
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 1:04pm
I hear ya about the mind games.I am talking to a couple of other people as well but he's one i really want to get to know but I will wait and see if he wants to contact me. He's going back out to sea anyway so who knows..thanks for the advice!:)