off old/ how do you know he/she is "one?

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Registered: 09-18-2004
off old/ how do you know he/she is "one?
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Sun, 01-30-2005 - 4:20pm

ok men /women how do you know they are the "one"???

and when do you think you would know ? HOw long? 6 mths 9mhs a year?

do men not even think this until it has been a long time, or do you just know?

just curious..? how people view this?

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 4:31pm

fromw hat ive experienced or seen - it usually just happens, and you just "know". I think the timeframe is very different for many people. two great examples. My parents were working together and friends for a year before my dad finaly woke up and realized my mom was the "one". my mom knew almost right away but they were both dating others and she played the game of just being friends until he finally WOKE up. and it took him almost a year to realize this. I dont know how she did it.

another example is my friend T who met his fiance at a bar with me! they had a one nighter, and they were both just hooking up. Then it turned inot a serious relationship. Then 3 months later they both knew they wanted to get married.

So its just different.

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 7:22pm

I agree with SG. I know people who dated for years before they realized they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with each other, and then you see my best friend, who got proposed to 18 days after MEETING the guy, she had already told me she just knew he was the one so when he proposed she said yes (they had already had the talk about kids, where to live etc). They're having their first baby in March :)

I guess it depends on who you are too... I don't think I'd ever say "yes" to someone I've known for 18 days doesn't matter if I did think he was the one, and most guys wouldn't propose after 18 days either, so it's all different for different people... The guy I dated for 2.5 years, for about 2 of those years I was certain he was the one, everything changed in the last 6 months it's like the feelings just went away started seeing him as a friend instead, so I wonder how can you ever really know??

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 10:09pm

It so totally depends. I knew one gal as a friend for a couple of years, and when she finally (finally!) broke up with her loser boyfriend, I asked her out. I didn't know she was "the one" until that first date.

When I dropped her off at her place, she gave me a kiss that about lit my socks on fire, and that's when I started to think she might be it. :) After just a couple of months, we both knew, just like that.

So we knew each other for years, but once we started to actually see each other as romantic partners, that was it, game over.

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 5:08pm

Exactly. I think when you've been burned a lot it's easier to go by "timelines" but when you meet the one, it's a natural easy knowing feeling - you kind of know very early on from what I've been told. You may get married right away or wait but most couples I know knew very early on.

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