One Night Stand

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Registered: 01-31-2005
One Night Stand
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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 10:26am

Just wanted to get other's view on my situation. I've been chatting on line with a guy for months and we flirted back and forth. One night we hooked up. Since that night, he has not called me (which is a week ago). However, when I email him, he'll respond. He claims that he likes me and that he's getting over a bug.

But my sense is that since he hasn't picked up the phone that I'm just only a one night stand. Is my assessment correct?

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Registered: 10-27-2003
In reply to: ksirb
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 10:49am
Chances are you are 100% correct. The best way to find out it is to stop emailing him and let him contact you. If he does, then he may be interested or looking for another night in the sack with you, if you don't hear from him, your assessment is correct..he's not interested. Good Luck!
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Registered: 05-20-2004
In reply to: ksirb
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 11:01am
You are absolutely 100% correct.

 

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Registered: 12-10-2004
In reply to: ksirb
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 1:13pm
What the others said. You're almost certainly correct. Email is quick and easy, but calling is more intimate; someone who never calls but who is willing to email is avoiding that human-to-human contact.
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Registered: 09-15-2003
In reply to: ksirb
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 1:54pm

My best guess is that your instincts are right- that is was a one night stand. Sorry...

The best way to guard against this next time, is to recognize up front that this is just about sex and two people that want some physical human contact. I'm in no way making any judgments against you here. We are all human and we all have needs and desires, especially when we are single and feeling lonely.

But I think where you went wrong is that because of the ongoing flirting for a few months, you thought there might be a possibility for more than just a fun night. Which is why you are dissappointed and hurt. In my experience, if you have chatted for a few months (and both live near each other) but haven't met yet, chances are a relationship won't materialize. If you BOTH were really into each other- you would have met way sooner.

But now you can pick yourself up, brush off that bruised ego, take whatever lesson you want from this experience and go find that go who won't hesitate to call you, email you, see you (whatever) after you have slept together. :)

P.S.- Please, please, please for your own well being though, make sure you stock up on those "rubber raincoats" in case another situation like this one arises.

Good Luck!!

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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ksirb
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 5:19pm
No he's probably being truthful. You just need to figure out what the "Bug's" name is and you'll find out where he's spending most of his time...