This is so pathetic, it's funny

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Registered: 05-31-2003
This is so pathetic, it's funny
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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 7:40pm

Maybe it's me, but has anythng like this ever happened to anyone else? If it only happened once, I wouldn't think twice about it, but it's happened three times in the past few weeks.....is there a pattern here?

After a coffee date, I've sent a nice, innocuous email to my date thanking them for the coffee and conversation and expressing an interest in getting to know them better, if the feeling was mutual. Immediately thereafter, they hid their profile and if they were on the same internet browser, I no longer see them on my buddy list (although I am sure that we are online at the same time). I suspect I've been blocked.

Uh, I am getting the feeling like I must be some derranged, unhinged cyber-stalker who won't get the hint if they don't respond and won't take "no" for an answer. At least that's what they're treating me like. I may be a lot of things, but stupid isn't one of them. If they don't respond, I assume they're not interested and move on. Is it really necessary to go to such lengths to make sure I don't contact them? The only times I ever actually block someone is if they are becoming a pest or they creep me out in some way.

Has this ever happened to anyone else? I don't think I act anything but normal on a date.

Thoughts?

Ann

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:02pm
I'm sorry to that's happened to you Ann. I've never had that happen to me but, I would take it as a small minded person who doesn't know how to say, Thanks for meeting with me but, I'm sorry I don't think we are a match. Or, it's quite possible that these men have been barraged with emails from women they've met once demanding to know why they haven't heard from them. So to guard against that happening, (not saying you would do it) they block someone so they don't risk hearing from them again.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:03pm

That's ridiculous! But you're obviously paying for what someone else has done to them in the past.

FWIW, I don't send "thank you" emails anymore. I thank them sincerely while I'm ON the date, show enthusiasm and interest (assuming I am interested!), and then let them take the lead in contacting me.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:09pm
Yes I don't see many women giving thanks emails either. If I looked more like a male underpants model I think that would change though.
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:12pm
Is this buddy list on match?
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Registered: 05-31-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:22pm

LG, you always have a way of cracking me up, underpants model or not.

Thanks....Ann

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:23pm
No, on AOL
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Registered: 01-29-2005
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:25pm

Interesting about the thank you! I probably would have done that ;)

mental note: add "no thank you's" to list of rules.

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:28pm

Thanks Libra,

It really kind of just makes me shake my head in disbelief. Human beings do some bizarre things. What really is cracking me up, is that I have all of these "gentlemen's" phone numbers. Can you just picture them frantically checking their caller ID every time the phone rings? :-)

Ann

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:32pm

Great idea, Sheri. I'm going to do that (or not do that, as the case may be) the next time. Assuming there IS a next time.

Ann

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:56pm

It's a cruel world. I'm sorry, Ann. You're doing so well at getting yourself out there and taking some punches, I applaud you! Oh resilient one - please don't give up. One day your prince will come......

Lisa

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