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| Wed, 02-02-2005 - 9:14am |
Since my match.com membership auto-renewed on 1/21/05 without my knowledge, here's an update on my experiences:
1) Mary: Nice 38 year old school teacher. We went on a date and there wasn't any chemistry on either of our parts. I did not ask for a 2nd date (rare) after the first and was happier when I left her than when I met her. No complaints but this his how the system was supposed to work. There were no red flags beforehand via e-mail or phone but she didn't look anything like her photos. I think she would have saved herself some trouble if she didn't wear so much makeup and put the glamour shot photos up.
2) Sweetie #2: This one winked at me over the weekend but hasn't responded to my e-mail yet. No major red-flags on her at the moment.
3) Call-Kelly #3: This one winked at me over a week ago and was not my "cup-of-tea." After reading her profile, she appeared to be a 41 year old soccer mom that hadn't been "dipped in batter" for at least a year or so. I know: I should have deleted the wink but I'm curious.... I e-mailed her back this comment: "So what is it that you are looking for?" Late last week, I got this response: "I'm looking for a one-night stand. I'm sooo hot for you. Love, Kelly." Enough of this I said so I didn't respond back. Well here's the e-mail I got in my box this morning:
"Hi there. Why have you not responded back? I think you are hot and would love to have NSA activity with you. I prefer light bondage and liked to be spanked with a flyswatter. I also am open to other things as well. Please respond back... Love, Kelly."
My response? Quoted from a movie I once saw...
"Only with humans. Love, John"
TT

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Okay, this is shocking for me. Yet another reason why i feel like i have a very long way to go.
Is this a common occurrence?
How does one NOT go there with someone? How does a person find out if that is all someone wants? It seems like your lucky that your soccor mom had the balls to just come out and say it, but what if the person doesn't say it up front? I don't want to waste my time! Not to mention that after reading the 50+ messages below, I'm sort of scared off a little bit about meeting in person now......
You lucky dog. I got $50 that say's the picture isn't her and that she may not even be a she and that there would probalby be some kind of fee attached.
PS - What are you nuts responding to glamour shots? That's an invitation to meet someone who is absolutely not going to even closely resemble her photo.
City gal,
As far as trying to decipher what a guy want's you'll have to use your best judgement and look for clues along the way. Alot of guys will say all the right things and appear to be normal but then they will try to make a move (towards sex). But there are a few clues.
1) Actions speak louder than words.
2) Does he really listen to you?
3) Does he appear to want to talk to you rather than at you.
4) Any sexual overtones in the conversation?
Just a few pieces of advice from the guy's side. The other guys on here could also chime in and give you some advice. But for the most part, experiences like the "soccer mom" are rare for guys. But alot of the girls will tell you they are daily experiences. As you become more experienced with OLD, things will get easier. At least that's what I thought...
TT
LG,
They weren't the "typical" glamour shots but lets just say they were photo's that took maximum advantage of her features. I never respond to the normal glamour shot folks unless I see other pictures. I've been fooled by this before.
Perhaps it was a man. But I expect that on Craigslist rather than on match.
TT
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I've only had one "glamour shot" experience and the guy ghosted before we met. He was on matchmaker (and I saw him again on yahoo - same pix). His pix were cheesy, his one full-body pic was unintentionally funny -- it looked like a parody of a 70s TV action star (Mannix, anyone, or am I dating myself? :). His emails were nice and I kept it going longer than I should've because I was juggling a couple others and he got thrown into the mix. But as soon as I suggested meeting, Ghost City.
Did NOBODY else think this was funny....?
>>It seems like your lucky that your soccor mom had the balls to just come out and say it...<<
Soccer mom, balls....? And City Gal, you are so cute you didn't even mean this as a pun, did you? HEEEHEEHEEHEE.
Good points here for you to consider from TT and LG, too. I have found that these weirdos/creeps will ALWAYS mention sex-stuff way too early in their emails/IM's/phone convos and that should tip you off right away. They'll basically, tell you in some way or another that they are not on the up and up...whether it is someone like TT's soccer mom or it's the guy that thinks by the second IM seeion you should cyber sex with him, or that you should go back to his house "for drinks and a movie on th ecouch" after a few dates or whatever.
Ohhh, honey. Hang in there, keep talking to us. We don't have all the answers but we have a lot of combined experience and always want to help each other navigate the OLD thing.
<<<<<>>It seems like your lucky that your soccor mom had the balls to just come out and say it...<<
Soccer mom, balls....? And City Gal, you are so cute you didn't even mean this as a pun, did you? HEEEHEEHEEHEE.>>>>>
I don't know, did I??? ;)
Hmmm. Getting spanked with a fly swatter. That's a new one.
Sounds like a winner.
Flyswatter....does it have to be a new one? A clean one? Or one that you use on a regular basis and you just pull off the shelf and start using away.....
What would a flyswatter do for you?
TT-I think you should find out and let us know (wink)!
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