The Cheap Suit Theory

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Registered: 10-26-2004
The Cheap Suit Theory
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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 7:23pm

Hi Y'all,

Ok, is it Just Me (again!?), or is this happening to others here:

I Swear, it seems that when I like a guy, he is vague and eventually vaporizes, even after a few great dates where they give me the "you are cool/beautiful/fun" whatever lines (of course meant as 'steer-age"--right into Bedland!). However, the ones that I do not care for and I say that kindly,or decided it is not a match and say I would rather not even meet, THEY go Turbo on me and call, im, email like loco! So, the ones I do not like are "all over me like a cheap suit", as it is said here in the Sultry South!

I call this a "key"; it is a Sure thing I can bet on in my life...like being the Only one getting a ticket for crossing a parking lot to avoid a traffic light..yep.,that would be the Cupcake, even though I followed about 7 other drivers Through here....these constants are called "keys".

This happening to others?

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Thu, 02-03-2005 - 9:25pm

I think that's one of Murphy's Laws. What can go wrong, will.

The wrong woman is the one that is attracted to you. Well, if you're a guy. You know what I mean.

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Registered: 08-07-2004
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 6:52am
As time has shown, men like the chase. They like trying to get a women--that is their nature. Sometimes when they know they have you (or think they have you) they give up. Even in relationships, once they know they fully "have" you, sometimes they stop trying so hard to court you, etc. This happens to women all the time! Sorry, but it's a part of life. :-)
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Registered: 08-19-2004
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 9:07am
I know what you mean, cupcake. I think it also has something to do with insecurity and low self-esteem, as in the old Groucho Marx joke, "I'd hate to belong to a club that would have me as a member." I've fallen prey to that in the past, when a man seems really into me, and this little voice in my head says "something must be seriously wrong with him."
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 10:29am

Hi Y'all,

Thanks for the feedback! It is not my self-esteem at issue--it is that these are people I don't feel I have anything in common with, or there is No spark at first meeting, so I do not waste their time, or mine, and gracefully bow out. I like "me" and I hope a good man will too--I would never think he was amiss because he enjoyed my company.

In reality, I think I Choose the wrong men to like; maybe I want a challenge too? Ewwww...I had better not be a "gamer" or I will kick my OWN a**!!!

Had to block one last night (3rd in 5 months of this)that would not take 'no,ty' for an answer and then started to go 'bedroom' on me...ewwww....TMI! (too much information!)

thanks again!

Truly,
Cupcake