Ghosts Re-appearing

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2004
Ghosts Re-appearing
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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 8:37pm

In the last few days I've had a couple of ghosts reappear. One actually called me on the phone. I'd forgotten about him. I told him I was on my way back from Philly and he asked me to call him when I got back home...Yeah right!!!

The other one sent me an email through a site I was on asking me to drop him a line. I sent him an email back telling him to get lost...

What is wrong with these guys??? They have big ones!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2004
Thu, 02-03-2005 - 8:46pm
Sad as it may be, I wouldn't mind a ghost or two coming back, even it would be to tell them to get lost - at least somebody's thinking about you! ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2004
Thu, 02-03-2005 - 8:51pm

Why is it so bad? The timing was just off before. It happens to all of us. I can see if you guys went out on a few dates or something and nothing happened. But if you were only chatting via email or phone or met a couple of times, I don't see what the big deal is. Yes, maybe you weren't first choice last time, but they still want to get to know you, so why not?

Perhaps they may ghost again, you never know. but what is the worst thing that can happen?

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Thu, 02-03-2005 - 11:15pm
I don't mind hearing back from ghosts, if nothing bad transpired between us. I figure maybe he was checking someone else out first, and now he'll know what a good thing he has if we meet!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2004
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 11:28am

I know the veterans on this board think that ghosting and reappearing is a big no-no... I never really understood that.

It goes back to Jodie's post on another thread; as a newbie, you get lots of responses. You can't possibly correspond with all of them, and it's perfectly understandable that you might meet/date a few and come back to others later. What's the big deal?

I also think that we like to impose some of those JNTITY rules to OLD; i.e., just because he wasn't convinced I was the one during our first round of e-mail communication, it's "next"! Why close yourself off to an opportunity, even if it the second time?

Tracy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 11:32am

I'm personally of the view that if the guy comes back with a plausible excuse and an apology for his lack of contact, I'll give it another shot.

Sheri