too good to be true?
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| Sat, 02-05-2005 - 11:13am |
There's been plenty of talk about how, if someone has to SAY they are honest it may be a clue that they're not... etc. Just curious what y'all make of this email I received. The first thing that gets me is the sheer length of it. The mention of sex in first contact is a red flag too. And I'm a cat/small animal person so the husky & lab would be a dealbreaker for me... but still thought this could make an interesting discussion?
Maybe some warnings for the newbies who get this kind of message?
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My name is xxxxx from xxxxx.... I am a very sweet kind caring man with a good heart and personality. I work full time and attend xxxxx majoring in web design. I am the kind of guy who will do anything for the girl I love, make you soup when your sick, hold you and wipe your tears when you’re sad and you never need a reason to call me because you come first. I don’t base a relationship on sex, when we go out we take turns deciding what we do, when we are intimate we go slow teach and cherish and keep everything we do between us the most important thing to me is making you happy Your always welcome to call me anytime and your never a bother. I don’t force or control and u have a right to do what ever you want but if u gave me your heart we have to be honest open and faithful, as long as your honest open and true to me I wont get upset, if u lie to me if u avoid telling me something I will get upset, also, you can call me anytime u need me 1am or 1pm and I will come over to be with you. I like to hang with friends, bowl ,pool, concerts, movies, hang with friends or family and like to do anything fun. I don’t club, party, I don’t smoke, don’t do drugs and drink sometimes and want the girl I am with to accept that. I dress preppy casual, like all music except hard rap, I drive a 1997 ford thunderbird and I have a husky and a lab. I am seeking a long term relationship with someone who wants to settle down and who’s not interested in games. I want a girl who is not wild, or into clubs party’s who does not smoke or do drugs and drinks from time to time. I am very eager to talk to you and I hope you feel the same.

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That's a profile, not an email, if you know what I mean.
I don't see that he actually references anything about YOU (the person, as opposed to "you", the woman on the pedestal)...I'd be wondering if he even read your profile!
Sheri
My opinion is that he's written that once and pasted it onto his email hundreds of times.
Lisa
Well, overall seems like a nice guy on paper.
When someone brings up the honesty several times or anything like that it usually means their previous relationship was lacking so for this guy I bet his last GF wasn't honest and lied so now he's making sure this time around he meets a woman of her word. I'm only guessing.
The sex comment was more minor; maybe he wants you to know he's a patient guy in all departments, who knows? Possible red flag but I wouldn't read into this one as the rest sounds good.
He sounds like a nice guy who is willing to make his new GF his number one, nothing wrong with that, if anything refreshing.
My BF has two Australian Shepards and I'm NOT a big dog person either, I love little dogs. They are usually in his kitchen when I come over trapped behind a kiddy door thing that keeps them in. One of them is a puppy (but BIG) and jumps on me and yes it hurts but not badly (she jumps on you and sometimes scratches, not intentionally though), she's just wanting to play. I'm now getting used to it.
If you're into someone,sure you can get used to their big dog. I wouldn't use that as a deal breaker personally. I'm sure you don't follow the reality TV shows but Trysta and Ryan who got married, she's allergic to dogs and Ryan has a big dog he LOVES. So she takes allergy pills everyday...that's love! I know when I was dating prior to M and when I met M I'd pull these little things apart in my head like, bummer he has big dogs or bummer his house smells like a farm (from the geckos and feed combined) but remember that's external stuff, if you end up hittiing it off you can compromise on that stuff. For me if M and I ever move in I'll be getting the carpets steamed professioonally, maid service for all the cob webs, the kitchen sterile, LOL ---some guys are just bachelors and need a helping hand :-)and everyone has flaws or things we wish we could change but what makes it worth is is seeing their warm smile and knowing you're onto something special!
Let us know if you meet him out; you never know unless you take a chance.
SP
Since I'm in a betting mood I'm going to wager $10 that:
I didn't realize it was an email he sent you; I thought you copied his profile for our review; just re-read that, DUH.
Yes, it probably is a cut and paste and I was always leery of those when doing OLD. I prefer a more personalized approach that shows he read my profile and wants to meet me, didn't randomly send it out to 100 ladies. A wink is fine if I wink back and then he writes me a nice note......
Really you're call on this one......
Peanut
Yowser Y'all,
Totally agree with the sentiments on this one! "If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it probably IS a duck"--ie, if it seems Too good to be true...
I call his email a "Plug-In" and I am kinda referring to those good smelling little scent thingys from 'Glade'--it has a Purpose! To make you fall for this; hook, line and sinker! LG is right--and as per the used car salesman thing--WHY is he 'selling' himself?! Plus, TMI--Wayyyyy too much info in a first email!
I fell for one of these and it is a game. Up to you if you would like to meet him though,as always, just go in with that grain of salt firmly attached to your margarita glass and see Through it, if need be. IMO, I see NO reason to reference sex in your first emails.
Don't forget that these men know how to say Juuust what we women want to Hear....(sorry, guys--women do it, too--Bygones!)
Happy Mardi Gras!
Truly,
Cupcake (quack, quackin'!)
Sounds like about every other guy to me.
Lisa
LG, once again you are just too much!!
I am not actually thinking of meeting this guy or even responding, for those who read it that way. I found it more amusing than anything else.
This is from plentyoffish.com - when someone posted about it the other day I went to check it out. Mostly kinda lame IMHO.
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