Cancelled a perfectly good date

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Cancelled a perfectly good date
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 2:54pm

Has anyone ever cancelled a perfectly good date simply because they were feeling down in the dumps? I can't believe I did this. I've been having an extremely difficult time getting back into the dating circle due to a various number of reasons. I finally found what appeared to be a perfectly nice guy to go out with...we had dinner and a movie planned for tonight...and I blew it. I woke up in this down in the dumps mood, feeling sorry for myself, wondering how this guy could even agree to go out with me? I chatted with him briefly online and he suddenly got bumped off. When he didn't come back on I assumed he was abruptly ghosting on me, which upset me even more. I guess that just set it all into motion so I emailed him and cancelled meeting him. I feel really bad about it. I even sent him an e-card apologizing. Geez, I can't believe I did that.

Jeanie

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 6:43pm

To answer your general question... yes... I believe we've ALL dropped out of a date for 'depressed' feelings on our part. Let's face it... we want a date to go well and when our mood isn't with-it... we sometimes cancel.

In your particular case, I think you played the common female game called Let's Jump To Conclusions.

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Try to make it up to him and get that date lined up again.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 7:17pm

jeanie1210...


Pianoguy has only cancelled a date once....and that was due to illness.


But in your situation...it was probably a case of nerves getting the better of you?

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 7:39pm

I do understand why you cancelled. This is a common problem. I have had 3 "boring a$$" dates since going online and before each one of them, I had an overwhelming feeling of wanting to cancel. I probably should have, but I felt it was good to get out and you can't meet anyone if you don't get back out there. Besides, I get tired of going to dinner and movies alone, so it was nice to finally be with someone in these places. Although the guys were clueless and I am so moving on, it made me realize two things, one I definitely know what I don't want, and I need to improve my appearance. I dress well, smell good and I have a nice face, but gotta get back to a gym. I have no more patience for men who don't know much. So, hang in there and I agree with john, reschedule the date, just to see if you really did miss out on something. You never know, maybe your intuition was saving you from something horrendous.

GT33

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 7:49pm

I'm too new to offer much advice, just empathy. I know how hard it can be to get back into the dating thing. (hugs) I hope you are feeling better soon.

-N

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Mon, 02-07-2005 - 3:34pm

I have done this very same thing myself...twice. Would you beleive that he gave me a third chance...however to no avail...as my luck would have it, all he wanted was a booty call. When he didn't get it, he ghosted.

I guess the moral of my post is....

You may give you another chance..don't give up...but be careful for what you wish for.

Does that make sense?

Jodie

 

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Mon, 02-07-2005 - 9:04pm
After sending the e-card to him, did he reply? I agree that it can be hard to get back into the dating world, it was for me. But I just looked at it as something to do to get out and if it worked great, but if we didn't click and there was no interest for one or both of us, at least we tried. The more you do it the easier it gets. You can't take the dating so personal if it doesn't work, and many will not work, so you just move on. But you have to start doing it to meet anyone. Good luck to you.