First date went great now the fun begins

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2005
First date went great now the fun begins
12
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 10:47am

Hey guys,

I just wanted you guys to know that my first date went pretty great. I took your advice and limited contact and im glad I did because we had so much more to talk about. Only hitch, its only 10:39 am est and he called me already. Last night he said he wanted to see me again next weekend. Other then my concerns that he may be overly attentive I had a wonderful time and we had good chemistry and I really would like to see him again. How can I tell if this guy a Cling-on? Or is my streak of HJNTIY over?
GM

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 11:07am

We complain if they don't call and we complain if they do. They can't win! LOL

Lisa

Avatar for phoenixmama
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 11:08am
Yay for a great first meet!! How can you tell what's really up with this guy? Patience. Let him set up a specific second date & see how it goes. Keep on talking and get to know him. Don't read too much into physical chemistry, how your personalities click is way more important. And just keep your hopes realistic so you don't set yourself up for disappointment. In the meantime, just have fun!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 11:10am
Giving it time is your best bet. Over time everyones true colors emerge. Anyone but a sociopath can be normal on a first date. Come to think of it I think Sociopaths can be normal on a first date too.
Avatar for northwestwanderer
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 11:43am

Well, personally, if I liked the guy, I would be psyched to hear from him so soon. Time will tell if it's just enthusiasm for you or not.

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 11:45am

Glad you had fun! That is great news.

Well, a Cling-On is the one that won't go away even though you have asked them to so he doesn't fit that category. But he is very eager! Just take it slow and continue what you are doing with trying to limit the phone calls and IMs and so forth. Overly attentiveness can be both fun and annoying so just try to do what you can to keep it in check. But go out with him next weekend and have fun.

131.gif image by y_baros th5K.gif image by jade_simo

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 11:49am

Lisa said...
>>We complain if they don't call and we complain if they do. They can't win!<<

This is EXACTLY what I thought! LOL
.

Moonlight, I'm glad you had a good first date. Don't put too much stake on it, though; I had a fantastic first date a few weeks back, she even said "I want to see you again" and we set a second date for a few days later... which she cancelled, via email, the day prior.

The point is not to bring you down; the point is to remind us all that it might seem like it's going great, but there's always a ghost type lurking and potential. Hopefully here it doesn't work that way!

I'd say that a call after the date is generally considered by most to be a Good Thing, so let's not get all down about it. Just be happy he did, happy you had a good time, and optimistic that it'll go well in the future- and know that if it doesn't, you STILL had a good time and that you'll continue to be you and be happy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2005
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 11:53am

YAWN!

Okay, I may be in the minority here, but you saw the guy last night and he called you on the phone at 10 freakin 39 AM this morning!? IMO, that is a little early on a Sunday to be calling someone. Especially after just seeing them the night before.

Other than that part though, he obviously is *very* into you. And that's not a bad thing!

I think he's just overly eager to make the transition from OLD to IPD (in person dating) but you can easily pull back on the reigns a little.

I think finding that happy medium is what it's all about. You know the ones, not too fast and not too slow.

You would not have posted any concern over it if it didn't bug ya out a little.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 11:56am

Who isn't up by 10:30 am?

Lisa

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2005
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 12:00pm

Yeah, but if you just left a date the night before? I dunno what time it ended, but say ya got home at midnight....? I dunno, to me it's a little early. I like to enjoy my shower, eat a nice breakfast, have a cup of coffee, read the Sunday paper, and just not be "bothered" yet.....

but then again, perhaps I am in a stage now where I am cherishing my "alone" time.....

He's probably just a really nice guy. If you're really into him, like I said in my first post, it's not a bad thing!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 12:39pm
Geez - I'm up by 5am every day due to my 2 alarm clocks with feet ..

Pages