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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 11:37pm |
Well, I put a new picture out on my Matchmaker profile. I thought I looked particularly good on Saturday so I took my brand new digital camera (yes, lg, I broke down and leaped into the 21st century and... asked for one for Xmas!). It is a pretty snazzy one with timers, a self portrait mirror and everything. A few turned out really well so I put one out there. Since posting it, I have gotten 4 emails in a single day and it says 3 arrived within minutes of each other! Of course, all of them comment almost only on my appearance. So I guess that is good that I am getting more traffic, but it would be nice if they would notice more than my smile and eyes. Is that weird that I am both happy and bummed about it?
There are a couple that I will probably respond to but one has emailed me once already and I wasn't interested then so I just didn't respond. I guess I will send the "Thanks but we are not a match". One guy is really starting to bug me. He emailed once and I ignored it. He emailed again so I sent a reply saying "I think you've emailed me once before and thanks for the interest but we're not a match. Good luck.". Now with the new picture he sent an email just now saying "I like the new picture have you found your "match" yet?". I just blocked him. Blech.
I've added the pic to my Match profile and will see what happens. Maybe I'll put it on Yahoo too. I still need to get a full length shot and obviously it is tough to do a candid of yourself so I'll have to work on that one. AT least it is flattering to get some attention.

It is tough to take those shots of yourself, even with the self-timer.
When I did on line dating I'd always get those guys that would constantly send me emails once a day for months straight. It's a pain on match (matchmaker is easier to block) but you have to do it. Yahoo I had the same problem; you'd think after 10 emails they would have a clue I wasn't interested. I understand the "maybe match didn't send it" but that many emails is overkill. Or they'll say if you haven't met your match why not give me a try - as if they are your prince waiting on the sidelines or so they hope!
Best thing to do is just block or they will continue to bug you. I usually don't send a thanks but not interested because 9 times out of 10 they want to continue the dialogue with me!
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That's scary, peanut. I agree -- you just have to block those dudes. I'm amazed how many people can't take a hint.
Well Linda, I am not sure if it has improved or not b/c I don't know what these guys are after yet. Since they commented on my appearance, they might be after just sex but they haven't come right out and asked yet! But there do seem to be some normal, attractive guys in my age range so who knows. And that D Magazine article said that the one couple met on Matchmaker so that is why I thought I would give it a shot. It is cheaper than most of the other sites and I haven't been having much luck with them. I haven't been out on Match much lately but it looks like different people to me from my high level glance compared to Match.
I'm with you peanut. I usually don't send the thanks but we are not a match emails either. I figure ignoring is fine. But if I get a second email, I usually send it in hopes to stop the emails. This third one was over the top. He sounded like he was being bitter or snide - his email said "I really like your new picture. Have we found our "match" yet?" I was like, WTF?? I ignored you once and told you politely to leave me alone once. Now it goes directly to blocking you. Buh-bye. Do they think this is attractive? Do they think that the constant emailing will just wear you down and make you change your mind about them? Whatever!
As lg once said: "Does stalking ever actually work out for anyone?"
ummmmmmmmmmmm - V - who told you to put up new pictures like 8 months ago?????
Give me some credit. I'm more than a wrinkled up body in a Walmart bag...
>>And it took me a while to figure out how to work the camera
oh please...you really need to save those excuses for the Match guys...