Update on Match photo issue

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Update on Match photo issue
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Wed, 02-09-2005 - 10:35am

Good morning to all you fellow board users. Promised that I would keep you posted on the IT issue with my profile photo on Match... To summate,(also see my previous thread entitled IT issues on Match) I sent out a total of 5 emails to Match re: the matter of someone elses photo that was visually placed within my Match profile. On Tuesday afternoon,I finally rec'd 3 auto respond email messages (just like LG had predicted) saying that the corrupted photo had been removed from my profile. No doubt, thats because I took it upon myself to personally delete my photos in hopes of getting rid of this strange person's pic. I'm still a little miffed about the whole ordeal but I'm trying to be positive and move past .
My profile is now up n'active and visible/viewable. Thus far I have rec'd a good response in both winks and in emails, even though I only have one pic left attached to my profile.
I have a couple of Questions though, and perhaps you more experienced Match users can best answer these;
How accurate is the counter on the number of times a profile has been viewed ?
(In my own case it is stating that my proile has been viewed 441 times, is that even possible...)
Also, What's your feeling on the auto repond button for yes or no to a wink notification?
The wink emails are starting to buildup in my email account and I'm not sure if I should just delete or send back a courtesy auto response saying "Not interested". Whats the more nicer thing to do ?
For those of you on the board that usually offer to critique our 'newbie' profiles, my profile is under In2cashmerenprls .

LM

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 11:02am

Yes, it is entirely possible that it has been viewed 441 times. I don't know how accurate they are, but they seem to at least be reasonably accurate.

We talked about those "courtesy" replies a few weeks back. And they are not courteous at all unless they have changed them. The email says something like "Keep Looking!" (with the implied Loser! not in the heading line). Then the text says somethign like, "So and so received your wink and is not interested." Most of us agreed this was pretty harsh for the "thanks we're not a match" email and since most of us prefer to not send a reply to a wink we are not interested in, I think the consensus was to just ignore and delete.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 11:08am

1. I wouldn't worry about how accurate that is...what does it matter, really? What counts is getting winks and emails from people you're interested in, not how many times your profile has been viewed!

2. I don't send those auto responses, because they are AWFUL to receive, IMO (they are very rudely worded). This is a subject of much discussion on this board...you'll find some people strongly support sending them; others feel just as strongly that you shouldn't. Personally, I find it condescending and rude to GET them, so I don't send them (in the spirit of "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"). I would MUCH rather infer from not hearing from the guy that he's not interested than be TOLD that, ya know?

Sheri

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 11:56am
I appreciate the input greatly and yes you are definately correct in saying that if the auto responses are worded so rudely, then , it probably would be better to just delete and ignore. Once again thanks ladies for giving me some direction in this matter. :) Hope you all are having a great day.
Just as a sidebar note, there is one gentleman that I am very interested in sending a wink to out in California (he popped-up in my mutual matches) and I had also seen his profile on an OLD site that I had used last November. He is just the type of guy that meets my negotiables & non-negotiables (if you catch my drift).At this point I have not yet sent a wink because I have this pre-conceived notion that because he is so absolutely gorgeous he probably just gets bombarded with winks and emails from hundreds of women on a daily basis.....
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Registered: 09-03-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 12:08pm

I'm a newbie too, so take this for what it's worth. Your photo is really good, but as someone who's done a whole lot of searching, I would never contact a man who had a profile with just one picture that's kinda fuzzy and looks to be glammed-up. There's nothing wrong with a glamorous photo as your main one, but I think that there needs to be additional "real" photos as well. Just to show how you'll REALLY look when you show up for your first meet. And I personally think there should be at least one full-body shot, but that's up to you... I think you might miss some winks/e-mails from people who have been burned in the past by fuzzy photos.

As for not contacting someone because you assume they get a lot of winks, that's kinda like the old saying about the prettiest girls sitting at home because no one dares to ask them out. What if everyone else is thinking the same thing you are? And that guy's sitting there, wondering what's wrong with him. Give it a shot. The worst that can happen is he'll ignore you. If you don't contact him, you'll never know. Although there is one really gorgeous guy I saw on Yahoo that is just TOO perfect. I think I'll avoid him not because I figure he'll say no but because he just looks like a player. But if someday I decide I just want meaningless sex with a gorgeous hunk, I know who to give a wink!

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 12:23pm
Yes, I definately need to add on more pics. Initially, I did have other photos posted including a full body shot etc. But I had to delete them because of the corrupted photo issue that I ran into. I have to be honest,because of that, I'm a bit scared/leary about sending additional photos in, after what happened to me this past week, etc.
P.S. thanks for your words of encouragement ! :) LM
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 5:07pm

1. The hit counters can stay stagnant for a few days and then suddenly start working. In some instances they'll add in the hits from previous missed days. In other instances they seem possessed.

2. I would not do anything with winks unless you enjoy endless emails with people you are not a match for.

3. As a new profile you'll get a boatload of responses - which tend to die down after a few weeks.

Profile Suggestions:

I haven't read the whole profile because I'm running out of the office - but for the picture I'd suggest the standard three - head, body, candid. The one you have is a bit hazy but if it's working I wouldn't touch it. If things slow down I'd think about putting up the standard set of shots.