Last date with bad breath guy

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Last date with bad breath guy
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Wed, 02-09-2005 - 6:00pm

Just as a comment I'd like to post about the 2nd date I had with the guy who had bad breath on our first meeting, beside that he was late by 20 minutes. This time he showed 50 minutes late, called me from his cell and said "Hi there, it's Mr. late"..... We missed the movie we wanted to see. I waited for him at a cafe and after 50 minutes, I called him and was about to tell him I was going home when he said that he was 10 minutes away. Well, those 10 minutes ended up been 20. I was pretty upset when he arrived, but went to dinner with he guy. I had a beer and a juicy piece of steak so that must have calmed me down and put me in a cheery mood. We had a nice dinner and good conversation, even though his foul mouth kept on kicking in from time to time. He told me some pretty personal things that put my ears up and pointed at "red flags". I didn't notice he had bad beath this time so I kissed him good bye. We agreed in me caling him by mid week and do something on Saturday.

I thought about not going out with him due to the red flags I see in him, but decided to give him another chance....big mistake. I should learn to go with my gut. He called me Monday and left a message telling me the plans for the week. He called me again Tuesday evening not even waiting for me to return the Monday call. His plans were too forward in my view. When we finally talked I proposed to do something different in his area. He seemed upset and said he couldn't do anything on Saturday so it should be Thursday or Friday, but Friday not really, "So Thursday will work better for me" he said. I said I'd see if i could make on time due to my schedule been busy that day. His call kept on dropping, 3, 4 times. I felt so angry at myself for not following my instincts and i guess it showed in our conversation. The last time the call dropped he didn't call back. I called him after 2 hours and left a message for him telling him that I can't make on Thursday and to talk later. He hasn't called and I won't either. Things happen for a reason so go with your gut.

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 10:16pm

Hi CC,

When someone is More than 25 minutes late, I walk. IF they call with a legit reason (behind a traffic accident, meeting went late at work), okay, I will wait a little longer. When he called and said he was 10 minutes away, then after 10 minutes, he should have found your empty, Steaming chair and nothing More!

IMHO, I feel he is not only pushy and has doggie breath, but he is also Beginning with disrespect for you and your time. He May even be testing to see just How far he can push you, and still keep you in line.

Roll on, little rock!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 6:22am

Egads! Don't even answer your phone if it's him. Seriously.

Lisa

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 10:38am

Yeah, umm, hon? This is crazy! You should not have even still been there an HOUR after you were supposed to meet him! I cannot believe that YOU had to call him to ask where he was and he told you he was 10 minutes away and then took 20 and this was after you had already waited 50 minutes!! What a jerk! He sounds very controlling to me and like he wants things the way he likes them or not at all.

This is a big time NEXT!! I agree - don't even answer the phone if he ever calls again. These actions on a second date are unforgivably rude and not the actions of someone that would be considerate of you and your feelings.

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 11:33am

Am I reading this correctly, he was already FIFTY minutes late BEFORE he called to say he was running late?? And then was another TWENTY minutes late after he called and said he was 10 minutes away??

This is the very beginning of the 2 of you getting to know each other. This is the time when everyone is supposed to be on their "best" behavior, trying to impress the other person. If this is how he treats you know, what's going to happen later on.

What if this was your best girl friend telling you a guy did this to her? What advice would you tell her?

FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS here, for whatever reason this guy is at the very least inconsiderate. Don't schedule anymore dates. If he calls or emails, politely tell him you're not interested in anymore dates and move on!!!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 11:50am
Actually, if I read it right - HE didn't even call her after 50 minutes to say he was late. Her post said that after 50 minutes SHE called HIM to say she was leaving and he told her he'd be there in 10 minutes and took 20! (Sorry ccruise, I am not meaning to step on toes here but that is what I read). It would a little less bad had he called but not much. Definitely time to move on.

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 12:10pm
vexer you are absolutely right! my mistake...
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 12:15pm
No problem. Not pointing it out as a mistake on your part but that it was even worse than you thought! :-)

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