First meet planned

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Registered: 10-17-2002
First meet planned
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 4:08pm
Well, I have a first meet planned for Monday. One of the eH guys that I have been chatting with. We moved through pretty quickly - only a handful of emails and one phone message from him and we are planning to meet for coffee on Monday night. It will be my first official coffee meet for an OLD meet. But there is a time and place so I think this one will actually happen unlike the last one that ghosted after we tentatively made plans and then kept playing phone tag for a couple weeks and then gave up. It is interesting b/c we both grew up in the same suburb in Oklahoma and might even know some of the same people. He seems pretty nice and his voice wasn't wimpy on the message so that is good. The picture is nice - he's not drop dead gorgeous, but he has nice eyes and a nice smile and there was a date on the picture that said it was taken in February, 2005 so it should be recent. I am ready for a decent first meet! Wish me luck!

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 4:35pm

Woo hoo! Good luck to you, vex!

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 4:40pm
When you say "first official coffee meet" do you mean that this will be the first time you meet someone from OLD - or do you mean this will be the first time that's it's coffee?

 

 

 

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 4:48pm
YOU GO, GIRL, VEXER!!!!!!
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 5:45pm
Gosh do I detest those coffee meets. Go get 'em Jenny..
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 7:49pm
SA-WEEEEEEEEEET!

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 7:58pm
Good luck vex! Let us know how it went :)
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 11:14pm
First time for coffee. It seems like I've always met for drinks or dinner. But this one is actually coffee. Hmm. I detest first meets too, lg but hopefully this one will go well.

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:11am

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Same here. Well, I did have one coffee date, in my early days of OLD, and it was one of those where I knew right away it wasn't a match. I prefer to meet for drinks -- social lubrication, dontcha know?

Good luck, vex.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:08pm

Ahh...okay....that makes sense then. I was thinking that I'm pretty sure that you've already had OLD meets.


Good luck!

 

 

 

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Mon, 03-28-2005 - 9:51am

Hi Vexer,

Good luck tonight at your coffee meet!

I have found that there is actually one good thing about coffee meets, you can make them as short or as long as you want depending on your interest in the guy! And for me, someties it has been really good to be able to get out of there! I always have an excuse set in my head in case I need to pull it up to leave early...

If you're meeting for dinner instead, then you have to sit through all of dinner and if there is no chemistry or attraction there at all, it can be miserable for you, especially if the guy has a hard time conversing! Well, in that case I guess it might be miserable for him also if he senses it's not going well!

I got stuck at a dinner meet one time with this obnoxious guy that was so into himself and kept going on and on about his so called virtues. The food took forever to arrive and I was tempted to have more wine, but stopped myself because I was afraid I might say something I shouldn't and was trying to just get through it and to remain polite. But I was so happy when the check came and I could finally leave! It was a quick thank you very much for dinner and take care! Those elusive words - "take care" - they put a final ending on any chance of a possible relationship!

When I've met a guy for drinks...I have found this can be ok for me as long as I limit my alcohol consumption! But when I'm having fun and we stay longer and I have another drink or two, (I'm kind of a light weight when it comes to drinking) if the guy has caught my interest, I find the alcohol makes him that much more appealing and clouds my judgment, so I don't get a true reading of the situation and might interpret his interest as just that when the alcohol might also be talking through him and altering him some also. There are enough frustrations in dating without this adding to it! It has also led me (in the past) to do things I have kind of regretted the next day that seemed like a great idea at the time (I believe a couple of Martini's were involved which was way too much alcohol for me!)

So I think I prefer the coffee meet actually. But good luck to you tonight Vexer!

Sunshine

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