First meetings/date/photos

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Registered: 05-22-2003
First meetings/date/photos
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:02am

Well I had three first meetings in the past week.

Meet #1: he was fantastic and I really like him a lot (we had been writing about a month before we met). However, two days ago he got back together with his exgirlfriend (they broke up about 5 months ago - had dated a couple of years). Although I am disappointed I am also happy for him (he really was a super nice guy).

Meet #2: He was also very nice; looked about 30% better than his photo and the conversation flowed really well and we have a lot in common (again, had been writing for about a month before meeting). Since we met last weekend he has called me on the phone 4 times and e-mails every day (our phone calls last an hour or more - we seem to have so much to talk about). We are both single parents (I have two; he has one child) so we have hectic schedules but have scheduled an actual date for this weekend as long as I can get a babysitter and I am really looking forward to it. Only thing that could have put a monkey wrench into that was that I went out with friends last night to a club to go dancing and he showed up too (he didn't know I was going to be there). He was going to come over and say hello but then he saw me talking/dancing with a guy and assumed we were together and didn't want to intrude (the guy was only a male friend...and a very married one so there was nothing going on other than dancing). Anyway, he called me this morning and I could tell he was pretty curious if I was still available. I told him who the guy was and said that he should have come over and then I said that if it had been me and I had seen him talking/dancing with a girl for a while I wouldn't have gone over to him either. At least he called and asked though - some guys might just ghost after that. I really like him and I am looking forward to next weekend.

Meet #3: Again, after writing a month, exchanging pictures (and this blows my picture track record away - being that 99% look better than their picture) - he was very nice and we do have a lot in common; however he is 44 and looks 54 - and doesn't look anything much like the photo he sent - picture has to be at least 5-8 years old I would guess. Anyway, as nice as he is he did absolutely nothing for me and I will not be going out with him again.

So now I have gone from 3 down to 1; no new e-mails or winks in the past week (I live in a small city - less than 70,000 and there are only about 700 local men on the site...and I use the site with the most locals...other sites such as match only have about 100 locals - but that 700 includes men all the way from 19-70 so since I limit myself to 29-46 that leaves me with probably about 150-200). Anyway, I am rambling again like I often too; just wanted to post an update. Wish me luck on my date with that guy next weekend.

mom of 2

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:06am

Hey, Bachelor #2 sounds great! I love those straight forward people.

Good luck!