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| Tue, 03-29-2005 - 9:03pm |
Hey everyone, I'm new to the online personals world.
| Tue, 03-29-2005 - 9:03pm |
Hey everyone, I'm new to the online personals world.
Hi alsatia....welcome to the ON-LINE-DATING Board!
If the responses you're receiving are from men that don't interest you....a polite "Thanks for your response. I appreciate your enthusiasm and interest, but you're just not my type" quick note is certainly acceptable.
Two sentences are plenty.
Hi lilah_iv...
Pianoguy has the slogan: "Different strokes for different folks" running through his head today.
I must admit that I've done more than my share of winking...and haven't always received a response.
>>The e-mail back seems a whole lot more like a rejection of you personally and I just would prefer not to receive it.<<
So what you're saying is that you'd rather live in FantasyLand, where you can think in your head "it wasn't that they didn't like me or rejected me *personally*, they just didn't get my email or they were getting involved with someone or they might like me and be shy but will email me later..."?
Blech. We all need to accept that not everyone is going to like us. We WILL be rejected. (Women, welcome to the guy's world.) It's how it goes.
My belief is that if we can't handle rejection like that, we shouldn't even be out there asking. "Rejection" is just part of the whole thing.
And yes, obviously (and well-known), I come down on the side of "send the email saying 'thanks but no thanks'". I don't even see what's so "harsh" about Match's canned response- "keep looking" sounds *encouraging* to me, not mean.
YMMV. ;)
Hello
Just something I wanted to point out to you regarding what you said:
"A few of which are from gentlemen that are much older than me, one is even seemingly involved (separated means still married to me)"
If you are getting responses from men that are too old or men that are still married (yes, I agree too, separated is STILL married!!!), you need to be SPECIFIC in your profile and/or narrative of the age range you are looking for and marital status. Granted, I understand there are those knuckleheads that just don't read, period. It will help with the weeding out process. Be specific about who you are and what you are looking for.
Regarding the example indicated above in your post, I either wouldn't respond at all or very politely remind them of what your profile said: "I am looking for an unmarried, single 30-40 something which was indicated in my profile, good luck to you, blah, blah, blah...".
I got a response where the guy said he liked the twinkle in my eyes. I didn't post a pic, so, the conclusion I came to was he's a member of psychic friends and could visualize my twinkle from miles away?? LOL..oh brother..
That's strange... I was just going to say how beautiful your eyes are too... :) hehe
But seriously, to the OP: Someone here said that seeing a message in your inbox gets your hopes up and then having a letdown would be bothersome. I agree with that... just ignore them unless they send you a second message and then let them down easy.
Good luck!