How long does it take? I say 2 minutes!

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Registered: 10-12-2003
How long does it take? I say 2 minutes!
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 9:12pm

I am having a debate with my friends over how long it takes to know whether or not you're attracted to a person you meet via OLD. I say within the first 2 minutes, I'll know whether or not that attraction is there...

What do you guys say?

 

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 9:14pm

That hot, hey I want to bang him attraction. Sure 2 minutes.

The abiding, I want to get to know this person and have him in my life long term? Takes months.


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Registered: 03-29-2005
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 11:31pm
1st conversation
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 11:56pm

As far as yes I could sleep with you or want to kiss you - yes w/in two minutes for sure.

 
 
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Registered: 06-14-2004
Wed, 03-30-2005 - 5:11am
Well, when I met my current boyfriend, I wasn't attracted to him at all, found him too fat (the jacket he was wearing was deceiving, I admit), and although he wasn't bad looking, he was just "cute" I didn't think it'd go anywhere, he was not really my type. You can imagine my surprise when at the end of the night I was thinking "oh, I hope he kisses me!" Well, he didn't then, but when we went out again two days later not only did we kiss, but we even did other stuff (ooops!) We've been together three months, I'm very happy, and good thing it was a dinner date, because if it had been a coffee date, things might not have gone anywhere as he was a bit nervous and not as chatty as he had been on the phone. The dinner date gave him a chance to relax a bit -- plus I spilled water all over myself, which sure eased him up a bit (who knew my clumsiness would work to my advantage?) and that way I got to know him much better than I would've otherwise.
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Wed, 03-30-2005 - 7:24pm
Thank you for all your answers. Just to clarify, I wasn't talking about knowing I want to take the guy, drag him to the floor and rip his clothes off in the first 2 minutes. (Though it's been a dry spell lately so who knows! Kidding! hehe) I was talking about just knowing if you find the guy cute or attractive in a more innocent manner, after having spoken to him a few times and finding him interesting on that level. Not looking for a marriage partner in the first 2 minutes... that takes at least 5! ;)