I think I made a mistake
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| Tue, 03-29-2005 - 9:27pm |
I connected online with someone and we've been e-mailing for about two weeks. He seemed fairly interesting. He asked if I wanted to meet so I agreed to call him tonight and perhaps meet for coffee on Thursday. Well we talked tonight and I don't think I want to meet him after all. He was just getting home from work at 9:00 and apparently that is his usual schedule so he can accumulate time for extra vacation. That's okay I guess but he asked where I'd like to meet and I put it back on him. He doesn't usually go out for coffee. He also doesn't usually eat out. He also doesn't have caller ID because he doesn't get many phone calls. I want to date someone that has interests and friends outside of work not someone that is looking to fill in an empty life.
I said maybe we should think about a place to meet and talk tomorrow or Thursday and then came the mistake. He asked if he could call and I gave him my number. Now how do I get out of this gracefully? The conversation didn't flow well and I felt almost under pressure to keep it going. It doesn't bode well for a meeting if we couldn't chat on the pnone for 10 minutes without lulls.
So what do you think I should do?

BTDT and every time I plowed ahead I regretted the meeting.
Note: The rough phone conversation is normal. The things I've regretted is going ahead even though the conversation brought out areas that I felt I wasn't compatible with. Each time I met I found all I did was verify my gut feeling.
It isn't really so much the difficult conversation as the fact that he's never once mentioned a friend or any activity tht isn't solitary. He likes photography, great but solitary, he spent endless hours translating a family journal last winter, again solitary, loves to travel but has never mentioned doing it with another person, doesn't dine out which is a good place to meet and mingle with friends.
I'm just getting this loner vibe from him.
I think I'll play it by ear and see if he even calls.