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| Wed, 03-30-2005 - 11:41pm |
Um, I had a first official date with this guy that a friend of mine set me up with.
I don’t know what to think. I am very very attracted to him looks –wise but there is absolutely nothing else in-common including upbringing and intellect. At times I felt that I was afraid to ask him certain questions so not to make him feel uncomfortable because he may not know what I am talking about. I stared at him a lot because he is just so good looking and he has a lot of sexual chemistry going on but the conversation was lame. That is very interesting because in the past I would only be attracted to guys that are smarter than me. I am not sure where to take this from here. What do you think?
I don’t know what to think. I am very very attracted to him looks –wise but there is absolutely nothing else in-common including upbringing and intellect. At times I felt that I was afraid to ask him certain questions so not to make him feel uncomfortable because he may not know what I am talking about. I stared at him a lot because he is just so good looking and he has a lot of sexual chemistry going on but the conversation was lame. That is very interesting because in the past I would only be attracted to guys that are smarter than me. I am not sure where to take this from here. What do you think?

Thank your friend for the fix up and be honest - say he was cute but as far as relationship material he's not what you're looking for - you simply didn't feel a connection - i wouldn't say anything about his intellect but by say you didn't have a connection is a nicer way of letting him down.
Cheers,
SP
The Small Peanut
I'm one of those who can't stand someone who isn't at least *somewhat* smart. I'm not a nuclear scientist or anything; I'm eligible for membership in Mensa, but I've never joined because I'd probably be on the low end of that particular group.
But I have dated at least once incredibly hot gal who was also incredibly stupid. I mean, we're talking "how do you remember to breathe" stupid. And despite the fact that she was uber-hot (we're talking super-model hot), I couldn't STAND being with her.
So I nailed her once and then dumped her.
No, no, no, just kidding. I didn't go out with her past the one time (I'd spent other social time around her prior, so I knew that it wasn't just nerves- she was truly stupid) and even though I would've liked to have seen her naked, and probably could have (she was pretty into me), I just couldn't stand it.
I predict that anyone who dates someone strictly for physical stuff will eventually get tired of them. You've just GOT to have some kind of mental/intellectual connection, or it won't last.
But then again, that's me. Maybe if you got a really smart, funny, entertaining set of friends to keep you mentally going, you could handle Mr Stupid. :)
In all seriousness, there is one thing worth noting: There's different kinds of intelligence. Someone might be very book-smart, but be hopeless when it comes to sports or pop culture or something like that. What matters is that someone matches us in OUR areas of expertise.
I think I will give this person a shot. He isn't just good looking but he is also a very nice person. I just think that he is a very different type of guy from what I am used to dating. I do think he was a bit shy. And, yes Niceguy, I would like to see him naked :) but I will be sure to take my time before getting there.. (bike guy episode is still rather fresh and embarrassing).