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He winked back!
| Fri, 04-01-2005 - 7:08am |
I winked at a few men on my favorites list yesterday and one of them winked back. I know I need to e-mail him, but I don't want to ruin it because he's really cute. Any advice before I step on in?

1. When you email back - slip your email address in as:
myaddatdomaindotcom -- spelled out - so he can get to you if he isn't a member.
2. KEEP IT SHORT -- too lengthy initial emails are a turnoff for me. One paragraph suffices for the initial email.
3. Don't worry if he doesn't write back - many don't and it has nothing to do with you
4. Get yourself some other prospects in the hopper - keep winking/emailing others - do not make the mistake of over-focussing too early.
So if he isn't a member he'll be able to see my e-mails? I didn't know that... How can you tell if someone's a member by looking at their profile?
As for not over-focusing too early, you definitely are right there. You guys are going to laugh at me, but my first few days on match, there was this profile on my favorites that I kept going back to. I convinced myself somehow that this guy and I could be really good together. I focused in on him and took all this time and energy into figuring out what to say. I was sure when I e-mailed, he'd feel that same connection. After all, I consider myself an attractive woman and I feel like if I saw this guy out somewhere he would have at least given me a look back. So I sent him a short e-mail saying I really liked his profile -- just your usual casual introduction. The next morning when I logged on I was sure I'd have an e-mail from him. Nope. Nothing. I thought, well, maybe he hasn't been online yet. But later in the day I clicked on his profile and it said "Online Now." Then later he was offline, still no e-mail. I can't tell you what a blow that was to my ego. I set all my hopes on this one guy. I spent the next couple of days agonizing over what it could have been about me that made him not respond. It still bothers me, but I've moved on. Has everyone else done silly things like that? I tend to need to kind of warm up to someone before I can get interested. I have to think about him and determine I'm interested...kind of talk myself into it, in a sense. Unfortunately, I'm just not finding too many men (online or off) who really strike my interest and online I'm finding the ones who do just ignore me. It's kinda frustrating.
2. It's a weak form of finding a match - because when you meet a large percent will be "no chemistry"
3. Don't take it personally
4. Being specific in what you want works best.