Offer for a date

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Offer for a date
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:42pm
The cutie that winked back at me this morning has already asked to meet me. He's no longer a member on Match...he was discouraged by what he was finding there so he let his membership drop. I discovered when reading his profile that he had an e-mail address in it, so I decoded the clues and e-mailed him. He e-mailed right back and we seemed to hit it off right away. (At least a WHOLE lot more than I have with anyone else I've e-mailed in my time on the site!) He's funny, interesting, and seems really nice. In the third e-mail he offered to meet me for dinner tomorrow night. I can't because I have plans but I suggested another night. Anyway, I'm just so excited I had to tell someone!!!!! Is it too soon to be planning to meet someone? I haven't had a date in 13 years, but is it really a date? It's just a meeting, right? Like an interview...
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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: lilah_iv
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:55pm

Hey, good news! You must be excited!

Before you do anything, go to the OLD website and check out the info on there.

Dinner is great, keep your personal safety in mind at all times. After all, he is a stranger.

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Wet blanket time, girlfriend: if he was discouraged, he would not be online dating, right? Please be careful about believing what people say at this stage. What he is getting is free contacts from women, instead of signing up and paying to email women. Get it?

Please have fun on your dinner date, keep your expectations in check, and stay safe!!

amjay

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Registered: 09-03-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 2:07pm
Well... I told him I had plans Saturday and mentioned Sunday and he said he'd let me know then. No big deal, I guess...if it works out, it works out. I was just so happy to find someone who actually e-mailed back and didn't flake out on me. To be honest, I can completely relate to what he's saying. I've already decided if things don't get better by the end of my first month, I may not be paying for a second. I just have been extremely disappointed by what I've seen so far. When I do find someone interesting, they either ignore my e-mails, disappear after a couple of e-mails, or turn out to be complete bores. This guy is the first one I actually enjoyed e-mailing with. It didn't seem like such a struggle...and he seemed to have a good head on his shoulders.
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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 4:42pm

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Not neccesarily. I've become discouraged. In the last month, at least three times I told myself that I'll give it one more week and then I'm hiding my profile. Each time, a new prospect suddenly pops up ...then ghosts. I'm there again. I have tentative plans to meet someone next week. In the meantime I'm browsing and seeing no one else of interest. So again, if this one ghosts, my plan....which might be thwarted yet again...is to hide my profile.