Am I crazy in accepting?
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Am I crazy in accepting?
| Sat, 04-02-2005 - 10:24pm |
I just accepted a date/first meet (but it will end up a date unless I abhor the dude on sight) with a guy that is 51! and I am 32! We exchanged a couple of emails and then numbers, he called, I returned the call. Now I am second guessing myself on this because while initially I was ok with it now I am thinking about it a bit harder. I know what I am looking for and he was straight forward in what he was looking for (and long range that meshes) but I am thinking that he may be in a bit more of a hurry than I am to be "exclusive" with someone because I have really reached a point of I am taking my sweet time. And he follwed up the phone conversation with a nice email. **He did confess surprise that I even responded to his initial email due to the age difference** Maybe I am just being a twit, lol. Could I please get a reality check?
Thanks everyone!
J
Thanks everyone!
J

Just try it :) give him the same chance you would anyone else. Go to the may december relationship board...lots of happy people there. My last bf was 13 1/2 years older than me and we dated very successfully for two years. As a lurker, i can tell you sometimes people here seem so picky...i am SURE OLD is hard (i have never used an OLD site but married a man i met online)....but we have to be a little flexible. Love comes in many packages on the outside...but it's good to stop and learn about what is on the inside. It's just a date...just one date...go, and have fun :)
good luck!
jen
Buyer's remorse? lol. I vote you give the guy a chance. After all, it's only a first meeting. You both will either confirm your initial interest or not. Good luck!
I love being called picky, Jen, thanks! It can't be because of OLD, though, since I was accused of being picky in real life situations.
all those men I could have had, if I only put aside my dislike of rudeness, strong body odor, laziness, immaturity, and drug addictions. Oh well, some day my prince will come.
amjay
Are you concerned about the age difference? Or are you concerned that he might want to move things along at a faster pace than you?
Either way, I'd suggest meeting him anyway. After an hour together you'll probably have a better idea of whether or not this is something you want to pursue further.
I'd say go with your initial gut instinct- which was that he seems like a good guy and that you should go out with him.
It's just a date, for pete's sake; you're not marrying the guy! :)
I am concerned slightly about the age difference but as he seems to be active, activity levels should not be a problem however, I am thinking that most likely he would not want more children and I am pretty sure I want one more and wouldn't even mind more than one more.
Probably I am more concerned about how quickly he would want to "move things along" based on things said in the conversation we had. I am all for going along slow and taking time to smell the flowers along the way but I also do not want to get too wrapped up with the one guy I am seeing who is far and away one of my favorite people right now. I feel like I maybe wouldn't give the guy a fair chance because I do have a preference for someone else and I do not think that will change (that feeling is based on the conversation we had, which while it was nice enough to agree to a date, didn't exactly create waiting with bated breath by the phone for him to call again, lol)
I am going to go on the date/meet, I already committed myself to that regardless that I am second guessing myself now. Who knows, he could be a real jerk but if he is a nice guy it will be all that harder to say no to a second or third date if it comes to that because I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings, no matter how mild they may be. I am a big ol' softie, what can I say, I like everyone to be happy :-)
Are you crazy in accepting? HELL YES! Even he was surprised that you replied.
I tell men off who email me with that kind of age difference if I am in am especially bitchy mood (ie if they say anything slightly suggestive).
However, you did accept which means you should go. It is the polite thing to do.