I'm over analyzing again..

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I'm over analyzing again..
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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 10:45am
so what does a guy mean when he ends his email "take care and thanks for writing".
We've emailed several other times and he usually says 'talk to you later.'
Is that a blow off? It doesn't seem very open ended to continue a conversation.
Am I being nutty again!!????

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 10:53am
I don't think "take care and thanks for writing" is any more warm and personable than "talk to you later," but I don't have the entire context of the comment. Was the rest of the e-mail very closed-ended? I think that's just his conversational way of saying "Bye." He probably ends all his e-mails with some statement. Guarantee he didn't think a thing about it and he'd probably be stunned if he realized you were worrying this much about it! I sure hope no one analyzes my e-mails that much. We women are bad about doing that. Half the time men don't even know what the heck they're saying. They're too busy thinking about what their eating for lunch or who won whatever game was on last night. I know as a woman I stick my foot in my mouth all the time and I'm incredibly thankful men don't usually take everything quite so literally!
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 11:59am

I would

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 12:14pm

SHE THINKS:

So he says he’s going to pick me up from work and is 20 minutes late! Couldn’t believe it, does he not think my time is important? And I had to wait on a street corner, does he not care about my safety? I don’t know, this living together thing doesn’t seem to be working. He has really changed. When we were dating he was sensitive and caring. What happened? What did I do wrong? The drive home was awful. Every thing I said he just grunted to. Is this the end? We used to talk all the time, about everything! When we got home I even made his favourite meal. No thanks from him! He just flaked out in front of the tv as usual. And it figures, he doesn’t have energy to talk but no problem having sex that night! Men!

HE THINKS:

Brutal day, boss is a pr*ck, traffic getting worse and worse. Got laid though.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 12:20pm
I do read emails for context and have in the past stopped writing based up on those types of statements but only if I'm iffy to begin with. If the email asked no questions and basically went on about him then I'd think about calling it a day.
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 12:50pm

Hi Donna,

I know that we do tend to overanalyze things, but when this guy has ended his previous emails with "talk to you later" and then it changes to "take care and thanks for writing", I would wonder also with the change. Also, as the others have said, if he hasn't asked anything about you and only talks about himself that would be a red flag for me.

In the past I know that I have used "take care" to kind of end things, but that is just me. Otherwise I end with, "bye for now". The bye for now is pretty understandable for meaning and guys have said that they like it.

So is it a blow off - who knows really! Maybe email him again and see what he says. But if the email didn't feel friendly though I'd probably move on...

Sunshine

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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 1:09pm

I think you probably are overanalyzing a little bit but it is something to keep in mind. If I were you, I'd write him back and just see if he responds. If so, no problem. If not, you know it was the brush off and to not email him again.

NOW this was a brushoff - I had a guy respond to my email (after HE was the one that initiated and kept up with several emails) with "It was really nice getting to know you. Take care." Umm, yeah, I didn't respond back to that one. :-)

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 1:17pm

hahaha....now THAT made me laugh. Good one, Ann-Marie (and right on target) :)

Holly

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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 1:18pm

It doesn't matter how he ends the emails. What matters is if you've written each other several times and if/when you go out IN PERSON.

And yes, you're overanalyzing. The vast majority of guys never give stuff like that a second thought.

You should be a lot more concerned with whether or not you're ever going to meet the guy in person than how he ends his emails. And how he ends his emails should hardly be the deciding factor of whether or not you meet him in person.

Time to poop or get off the pot- tell him you wanna meet, if he isn't into that idea then he's not into you and it's time for NEXT.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 1:27pm
I agree. I've given him my phone number but he only emails.
Okay....NEXT
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 2:01pm

If you had given him your phone number and he failed to use it, and then came back with the "take care" email closer, I would definitely think that was a kiss-off.

As you say, Next.

amjay

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