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| Fri, 04-08-2005 - 10:19pm |
Well, first of all, I had such a strange 24 hrs, Wed nt to Thurs aft., that I have to share with you all. My sweet unboyfriend (whom I met via Yahoo and have mentioned before) spent the night and I finally had sex after so many years. It wasn't great sex, but I was pleased. :) (First smiley)
The next day, Thursday, I looked on Match, and saw a guy whom I'd seen on there six months ago but who disappeared soon after. Here is the interesting aspect: when I had first seen his profile, I thought, "Wow, this guy has so much in common with me...so many interests...and he's cute, to boot!" Then after a day or two I realized...I had dated him way back when...I mean, 25 yrs ago! Well, okay, I had slept with him once and had a couple of dates. That was it. But it just goes to show that my taste in men has not changed. He lives in another town and I don't recall his last name, so I couldn't look him up on my own, but now that he is online again, I'll get in touch. Or maybe I'll just send the usual anonymous email and see if he recognizes me from my photo (but then if he doesn't, I might have a bruised ego--oh, well). :) (Second smiley)
Third event: Though some of you may scoff, I maintain that I met, if not my Soul Mate, as near as I am likely to get, via Match, last fall. We had two little dates and then he slowly and sweetly vaporized (as in, shorter and shorter emails and no more dates). Sure sounds (to you) like a case of HJNTIY, right? But I felt there was still "life in the patient" and besides, one thing I have been learning is that men are unfathomable: some are very shy, some are not sure what they are looking for (whereas, I am quite sure). I decided to wait until spring. A couple of weeks ago, I emailed him briefly with some information of interest to him--nothing personal. He responded by asking how I was and that he'd thought of me recently.
Numerous times I have wandered over to the plaza where he might be sitting at lunchtime, so that I could "accidentally" meet him...without any luck. Yesterday I didn't, as the weather was bad, but I went to the drugstore in the afternoon and as I was looking at magazines someone came up beside me...it was Mr. Soulmate himself! We chatted in a friendly way for about 15 or 20 minutes and I was interested to notice that I feel the same way about him as I did four months ago. :) (Third smiley)
But what about the way he feels towards me? Who knows? Maybe he doesn't know, himself. In that case, I need books and articles about HOW TO GET YOUR MAN. Not how to find one but how to reel him in!! LOL (Sorry, fellas, if this sounds just too old school to you--like some 1950s movie.) As the song says, "Just like the Northwest Mounties, I know I'll bring him in someday."
So pass along those suggestions, please. And no "discouraging words," por favor.

To all who responded: I hoped you'd all have a sense of humor and whimsy about this (was it something in the stars, that these three happy events occurred within 24 hrs?), or, even better, advice on How to Get Your Man (though, as I think I admitted, that attitude is too retro to be fashionable right now).
To clarify, in case people read too fast or I didn't explain myself: I didn't "run into" someone I used to date: I SAW his profile on Match.com. When I saw it last fall, it took me a week to realize that I had gone out with him (twice) 25 years ago. He is still cute and has so much in common with me, that I realize why I liked him then (in another city). Yes, I slept with him at that time, once. I did not have any "rules" in those days about when to go to bed (not sure if I do now). I'm not needing to "hook up" with him now--but it would be fun to "meet up" with him again.
The guy I am seeing (and sleeping with) currently is really, really nice. We've been seeing each other for a couple of months and like each other a lot (met via Yahoo). We are just too different to be together forever. BTW, he is the first man I have slept with in almost 20 yrs. So much for the wild days of my youth! :)
I call the third man (met via Match.com also) "my soulmate" because he is as close as I have found to fitting all my criteria. My opinion is subject to change. I will post my definition of a soulmate later, when I have more time.
She said "no discouraging words" is what happened. I'm trying a newer, fuzzier, nicer NGOL, and only giving people the obvious advice if they actually ASK for it. :)
Since all the advice I would have would probably be seen as "discouraging" (like, for example, it'll be a lot easier to "reel in" Mr Soulmate if she's not boffing some other guy she's not really all that into anyway), I chose to skip it.
DANG! I broke my own rule in this post! :)
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But not until the second paragraph, still an improvement towards fuzzy.
I think it's great that she got 3 smiley's in 24 hours!
I agree Linda, when it rains it pours.
I say, enjoy figuring this all out. It's nice to feel like you are the center of attention once in a while. And I see the OP as expressing the fact that she is enjoying the whole experience. Hope it turns out the way you want.
Michele