What should I say to ghost?
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| Mon, 04-11-2005 - 5:51pm |
Hello,
I read some messages about ghost here. I need some advice on it.
Here is the background, I am 34, he is 39 and divorced with 2 kids. I met this guy from a dating service in middle of January. We started to see each other every weekend until last weekend. I could sense the attraction between us is physically chemistry. I like him. But I feel we are completely opposite person. I read some messages here; it said that you at least need 6 month to know a person well. So I decided to give myself more time to see if I really want to date him exclusively. We did not have exclusive talk. We only talked to each other once during the weekday to set up the date for weekend. We did have sex after 6 dates. It seems everything was going great. I called him last Wednesday and didn’t get reply until Thursday. He emailed me. He said he was very busy and would talk to me later. So I did not contact him during the last weekend. It is Monday now. I have a feeling that I might have been ghosted. But I want to leave a message to him and let him know what I feel. I want to call him and ask what’s going on. If he doesn’t want to see me any more, I am fine with it but at least let me know. If this kind of things happened before, I usually let it go. I was very passive on the beginning stage of dating. If the guy calls me and I like him, I will see him. Otherwise I won’t call him often. But this time, I really want to have a closure from him.
I need someone give me some advice what I should say in an appropriate way. I never did this before and I am not good on it. Any advice will be greatly appreciated!!

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I say give him a call and let him have another opportunity to reject you ...
(My advice is not to call and to let him get in touch)
(Unless you just want a physical thing)
You make me laugh after seeing your advice in the first sentence and real advice in the second sentence.
The thing is we have been seeing each other for 2 months. Do you think as a guy, you can behave like having a good date last time and just stop to call after that?
You already have your answer; he’s being a chicken instead of telling you straight up – bottom line his loss and someone else’s gain.
I was seeing a man off and on for a few years. We had been very close. He said he loved me and given our rocky history promised that if things didn't work out this last time, he wanted to at least remain friends and would stay in touch. I saw him a few months ago and two days later he disappeared. I haven't heard from him since. What a cad.
The point of my tale was that yes it can happen even after a few years. Can you tell my heart is still bruised?
>>if things didn't work out this last time, he wanted to at least remain friends and would stay in touch.
If there's a bigger lie that people tell -- I don't know what it is. Oh, hold on - yeah wait. The "friends first" cliche is the bigger lie.
Edited 4/11/2005 6:48 pm ET ET by lg1964
I dated a guy for 3 months and then he disappeared. My advice: don't call.
I never called the guy and never heard from him either. I know he's alive because he recently put up an ad on Yahoo.
iamshanshan...
cl-Pianoguy agrees with LG.....
LET THIS MAN CALL YOU!
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I am with you!
When my ex-bf of 1.5 years departed for Switzerland – he asked me to be “friends”. I told him where to go and where to shove his friendship! I can’t believe how pathetic some people can get when they offer such a thing when the breakup isn’t really mutual. After all, real friends don’t leave us – do they?
I love the "lets just be friends" speech givers and then you NEVER hear from them again??
Odd, I thought friends were supposed to keep in touch?
Bryan
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