Boyfriend Calling Himself "Single"
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| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 12:26pm |
So I've been dating this guy for 3 months now and we get along quite well. We had our "let's be exclusive" talk well into the beginning of the relationship, I've met his coworkers, friends and family, they all know I'm his girlfriend.
Anyway, I'm not sure if you guys are familiar with that "Friendster" site, but that is basically a site where you can connect with your friends, etc, I use a similar one like that too and found loads of my childhood friends in it.
So yesterday I got a voice mail from him and one of the things he asked was if I knew how to add schools in it. I went online to look at it, as I had a profile there as well, and saw that in his profile he had himself as "single". The options are "Single" "In a relationship" "Domestic Partner" and "Married". He obviously knew I was going to look at his profile, and I also invited him to be my "friend", so there is no question I saw it. I have also just updated my profile as well to say I was "In a relationship" (I hadn't been there in well over 6 months). I haven't mentioned anything about the "Single" part to him, but what do you guys think? Do you think I have reasons to worry or concern, considering he added his profile yesterday? I also wonder whether he'll change his profile to say he's "In a relationship" once he sees mine... It just upsets me that he is listing himself as single, even though he is not there to date, he will still be getting in touch with friends (possibly exes too) he hasn't seen in years.
Am I making too much of a big deal here? For now I have decided not to mention anything, but should I say something?

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Funny, I just invited my BF to join my Friendsters last week too but he put “in a relationship” just like me.
If it bothers you, bring it up, otherwise, it's going to fester and manifest itself in some really ugly way.
Which is why guys get that really bewildered expression on their faces when their SO blows up because he didn't put his dirty glass in the dishwasher. It's not really about the dirty dish - it's about the double-look he gave the hottie at the mall three months ago.
KWIM?
You know what; he probably put that up before you became exclusive and/or forgot about it. I forgot about my friendsters add too until last week and updated my status.
Ask him and let us know what he says. Good luck.
The Small Peanut
My coworker told me to write him an email saying this: By the way, I have myself as "in a relationship" but saw you there as single, should I change my profile to single as well? :)
My male coworker said to give him a chance to change it, since he'll see my profile, and only question him if he doesn't change after that...
This whole thing bothers me, but I'm just not sure if it's worth risking making the two of us upset for something that at the end of the day is really not that big of a deal, it's not like he acts like he's single.
Don’t do this on email; trust me on this one. Do it in person and when you’re both in a good mood.
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