Responding to Winks

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Registered: 10-01-2004
Responding to Winks
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Fri, 04-15-2005 - 2:36pm
Hi all, I am new to this board. I just moved to a large city and signed on to Match about a week ago. I have been getting a lot of winks and I have replied to a few of them with a casual email but have not gotten a reply yet (it has only been a day or two so I'm not that worried). My question is, after reading the board, now I am wondering if not all of these guys are subscribed and if so should I send another email with my email address included (I know Match scans so I will have to code it somehow)? They seem to have pretty in-depth profiles so I am assuming they are members but I guess there really isn't a way to tell. I don't want to seem too persistent and send another email, but on the other hand, if they aren't subscribed I don't want to miss out on possibly meeting them? Should I send another email to them (there is only about two or three so far) or wait a few more days? Thanks!
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 5:07pm
Yes, Match does hide email addresses from non-members. But one thing to keep in mind is just because it is a detailed profile doesn't mean they are members. Everyone has the same chance to fill out exactly the same things on profiles member or not. Chances are you are correct in that they are non-members if they haven't responded but unless you are REALLY interested in getting to know one of them better, I don't think I would suggest sending another email. The world of OLD is full of ghosts and people that send out 50 winks a day (shotgunning) so to not hear back from your reply to a wink is a very common occurance. My thought is that if they are REALLY interested, they will find a way to get in touch with you.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2003
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 5:11pm

I would not send another email.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2004
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 5:28pm
Thank you for your replies, two of the guys really seemed interesting and cute, they winked at me and I sent them a casual, brief email and haven't gotten a response. The winking just seems kind of lazy and impersonal if you are really wanting to try and get somebody's attention but I guess that has become the more popular method? So, if someone winks at me it is better to just wink back? I guess my logic is I wouldn't wink at someone I didn't want to get to know beyond a wink but it seems a lot of guys do that regularly, I have a feeling that will prove to be annoying. I have gotten several emails as well but they have been from guys who I'm not interested in at all (of course!) :)
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 5:33pm

>>I guess my logic is I wouldn't wink at someone I didn't want to get to know beyond a wink but it seems a lot of guys do that regularly,

To get inside the mind of the typical onliner -- remove logic and reason...

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Registered: 10-01-2004
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 5:58pm
I actually did OLD a long time ago (a year or so ago) and I actually had some fun dates (3-4) and I seemed to have a much better response and started emailing back and forth with one or two pretty quickly, within a day or two of signing up. This go round just seems to be stalling out already and I'm kind of perplexed so I'm trying to take all of the advice :) Just seems very difficult to even get an email going but I'm trying to have fun with it. In reality, I have met some great and very cute "real life" guys through new friends which probably have a lot more potential than anyone online but I thought I'd give this a whirl for a month.
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Registered: 06-19-2003
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 7:33pm

I actually send out winks to find out who DOESN'T want to hear from me.

So if I sent them a wink and they responded negatively, I set them to ignore and won't bother sending them an email if I become a member.

If they don't reply to my wink or reply positively, I'll send them an introductory email once I become a member.

So I basically just use the function to judge interest amongst the people that are supposedly compatible with my search criteria and also to weed out any that wouldn't be interested in the first place (saves me some time and effort)

Bryan

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Sat, 04-16-2005 - 8:21am
I think the main reason winks have become so popular is because people get sick of putting effort into crafting a nice email and getting no response. That's when OLD starts to seem like a part time job (and not in a good way :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-20-2004
Sat, 04-16-2005 - 9:30am

A new scam I figured out quickly:
Russian girls signing up listing their city
as in or near your city...

Although I think they end up getting their profile
deleted for them by administrators eventually.
The first contact email is usually 1-2 pages about themselves.

I don't contact too many ppl as far as winks/emails and I'm
not using match right now. But, I found you get at least
some reply if you only contact 'premier' members that have
the personality testing thing. This means absolutely they
are a member.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 6:09pm

>>My question is, after reading the board, now I am wondering if not all of these guys are subscribed and if so should I send another email with my email address included<<

No. If they are too cheap to pony up a few bucks to join so they can write to you directly, then that's a pretty good sign of what they think you're worth.

If you initiate the contact (ie wink first) then I think you should email them if they wink back. But if a guy winks at you, and you send him a little note, that should be it. If they're into you, they'll contact you; anything else, and they're not (and therefore are not worth your time/energy/money).