Why won't anyone respond?!?!
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| Sat, 04-16-2005 - 11:26am |
I tried match/yahoo a few years ago and I had pretty good repsonses....I ended up dating a guy for 1 1/2 years that I met on yahoo.....we broke up last summer...he broke my heart....I thought we truly loved each other and had a future together...but his head is/was messed up....enough of him!!
I'm trying to move on.
I did yahoo for a month....emailed @20 guys..and no one responded....it's basically the same profile I had up 3 years ago and corresponded/dated a few guys!...the same thing is happening to me on match right now....I put in @12 emails this week....NADA...
I do not believe I am hideous...lol.....I think I am a good catch....I didn't write about a broken heart in my profile...trying to stay positive....I am "full-figured"....but I am also writing to "large/stocky/etc" guys!....
Anyone have any words of wisdom?....I did have luck a few years back! This is getting to my ego!

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I'm curious, are you sure you're really ready to be dating again? I ask because you sound like you're still pretty heartbroken, and neeting someone else is still going to just be a rebound unless you really have your head & heart in the right place.
Now. You're still using the same basic profile from 3 years ago? Are you still the same person you were 3 years ago? I doubt it. What kind of emails are you sending? If you're sending out 20 copies of a form letter, I wouldn't be surprised that no one responds. On the other hand if it's TOO personal it might come across as clingy or pushy.
Why not try just sending a wink to the people you're interested in? THEN if they wink or write back, send the personalized email.
Unfortunately that's just how it is, a lot of people just don't reply at all if they're not interested. And it doesn't mean anything bad about you, you're just maybe not right for THEM.
Don't invest TOO much energy or hope in any one person until you get some signs that the interest is mutual, or you'll just be torturing yourself. But hang in there!!
lbfchris...
Pianoguy has to agree with phoenixmama.......it sounds like you still haven't gotten over the heartbreak from your last relationship?
And until you can move past the earlier disappointment....you'll be looking for FLAWS in anybody who responds to your match or yahoo personal ads.
While I'm sure there's nothing wrong with your profile of 3 years ago.....you might want to update a few items just to let potential suitors know that there are some exciting NEW elements about your personality and character that they should be aware of.
Good morning, lbfchris, and welcome to the board.
I must agree wholeheartedly with phoenixmom and pianoguy. Everything in your post said to me that it's far too soon to be back dating, online or off. As many people soon learn, OLD can stomp on your self esteem unless you are capable of not taking "rejection" personally.
I am so sorry your heart got broken. Jumping into a relationship with anyone right now can't possibly do you any good. Nobody can fix what's broken for you, you must do that yourself. How to do that is to take a little time to heal, get to know yourself again and then you will know what and who you want in your life.
Please take care of yourself.
Good luck!
amjay
OH....but I AM ready to start dating! I basically told you about the EX because online dating did work for me...I was happy for a year and a half...cried for a few months...and now I want to start dating again....do I want what I once had? of course....all relationships have problems...but I want to play the field/date/flirt....I AM READY..HEAR ME ROAR!! (insert laugh here)
I did update my profile somewhat...where I am professionally, etc.
lovesblueflowers on match.com
Thanks for any feedback!
I feel kinda angry, but I'm not sure if that is the word,
so I don't want ppl flaming me, thanks.
My best friend goes out for a couple beers, twice (his wife
lives out of town), he gets solicited, in no way to leave
your imagination blank, on 3 separate occasions.
No, he's a man of honor, and does not take up on it.
He looks like adrian paul.
My very good friend goes out for lunch, he's married, and has
a ring. Girl comes up to arrange a lunch thing with him.
He's cool on it.
He looks like adrian paul.
I'm not ugly, I'm not obese, but I don't look like adrian paul, and
I do know it.
What gives? You women would rather 'date' a married man that looks like
adrian paul,than a decent single dude that's OK?
Flame if you want, its an honest question.
You have two married friends who both look like Adrian Paul? Amazing. I know many married men. Not a single one looks like Adrian Paul.
Adrian Paul is so 90's...lol. Do you have friends that look like Matthew McConaughey?
I'm kidding ya and I'm sorry you're going through a rough time with the ladies.
I guess we use that as a euthemism.
Although frankly, and I am not gay at all,
I honestly do condiser him to be the end all of end
all of what would be attractive to women.
So does every male I know, feels the same.
Thus, the expression 'it pays to look like adrian paul'
Not the long haired adrian mind you, the one more in
highlander: endgame.
But again, when we say 'it pays to look like adrian paul',
I guess what that means is, really, you have a 32 inch waist
and can bench press 260 lbs.
I honestly think you know what I meant, but yer like,
trying to press the issue.
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