over analyzing....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
over analyzing....
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Mon, 06-27-2005 - 4:47pm
The motorcycle guy I met on Saturday gave me his business card and said "here, in case you want to email me at work". So today I sent him a short "how's work today?" email. I didn't hear back. I'm hoping it's just because he was busy or not at his desk. Maybe I should have waited. But he's the one who mentioned it. Okay, okay...I'm not going to think about it...
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 10:37am

well, he emailed back this morning!! I was so happy.
When asked about his work, he said there are better things he'd rather be doing such as riding his motorcycle, boating, golfing and dating...then he said not necessarily in that order!! :-)

so how would you respond to that?
We haven't sent a second date yet but in his email from Sunday he said if there's was a weekend that I didn't have my son he'd like to invite me over to his neck of the woods.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 10:51am

I would respond "sounds like a plan; will let you know my free weekend!"

Bottom line, he is a single guy probably seeing and emailing other people. Stay in contact and keep your options open.

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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 12:15pm
he just emailed me and said he'd "like to hang with me again". What's that supposed to mean??!!!? Why am I suddenly afraid of getting my feelings hurt. I don't want to just "hang" with him. I'd like to consider it a date!! Is there a big difference?
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 12:38pm
Don’t over analyze but I know what you mean – from my experience hanging out means he thinks you’re cool but not taking you seriously enough to plan a romantic date. However, maybe that’s a good thing – slow pot to boil; no expecations.
 
 
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 12:45pm

Date, hang out, it's all the same to me. It's the process you take in getting to know someone basically. What's the rush?

Hang out, be yourself and have fun!

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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 1:05pm
At this early stage, this is all semantics! I often say "hang out" when talking about the first couple of dates to make it seem low pressure. The word "date" comes with so many connotations these days. If he wants to be with you, it is a good thing. Don't fret so much! :-) "Hang out" and see where it goes instead of worrying about what he means by hanging out before it even happens.

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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 1:27pm
I totally agree with everybody! I'm just so darn excited I can't stand myself!! :-)
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 2:46pm
OK, well it is good to be excited, but don't get SO excited that you get your expectations up too high! Have fun, keep it realistic and enjoy the fact you met a guy you like!

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 12:15am

Hi Donna,

I completely agree with Vexer, you can't let yourself get too excited! I know it's hard not to do, but you have to just live your life and let things happen. I'm trying to take my own advice at this point also as I'm feeling the same way really! ;) And as far as dating or hanging out, it's just wording, but I feel hanging out means the same as dating but it sounds like less pressure than dating. Hang in there lady, you're doing good, but don't rush it and appear too available!

Sunshine