My latest meet...

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My latest meet...
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 12:48am

Hi everyone,

Well I met with a new guy from OLD for dinner tonight. It went well. He was nice and decent looking. He had a great car, built his own home, good job, doesn't want to have kids (is 37 never been married - yeah seems to be my usual type lately!), which I do know he could be making up any of it!

The conversation seemed to flow pretty good. There was some attraction there between us. Then the food came....................................I know I'm being picky, but he started to cut his steak and grabbed his fork bracing his steak like a caveman with a death grip, for the sawing motions of his knife!!!! Although, to give him some credit, he did place the knife on the edge of his plate when he was done cutting his extra large sized pieces he stuffed into his mouth.

Am I terrible or what??? I thought he was ok until the caveman episode! I know not everyone has been taught how to use a fork and knife correctly, but I guess it's one of my pet peeves. Does this bother anyone else?

He also didn't even try to get the door for me of the restaurant, just kind of stood there waiting for me to open it as I was slightly in front of him - this was a first for me as the other guys I've met, no matter what their ages, always opened the door for me.

But he wants to get together again when I get back from vacation (leaving Saturday for a week). But I don't think it will happen.

But I do have another meet set up for dinner, tomorrow night, with a guy also from OLD, whom I have talked with on the phone a few times and we seem to have many of the same values, ideas of life, interests, and he is my age, 45. But best of all, he ISN'T an Engineer, but a CPA - but he could still be anal about things as the engineers I've met are!!! His looks are ok, but I'm hoping there is an attraction there as we seem to click on the phone and he's very articulate.

But I've tried not to let my hopes go up too much since I know that nothing is concrete until the face to face meet! And then you are still left wondering even after a great meet! My daughter thinks I sabotage meets by thinking about these types of things before meeting these guys. But I know what I like and dislike! Sometimes I wonder why we do this to ourselves!!! I'll keep you posted on guy #2...

Sunshine

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 1:11am

Hey Sunshine,


Personally, the steak thing wouldn't bother me, but the lack of ambition in relation to opening the door would bother me...we all have different likes and dislikes; things that we tolerate and can't stand.

    
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 2:13am

Hi Sunshine,

Got to agree with you on the Flintstone-ish eating habits, and the Not getting the door is very 'dinosaur days' as well! I am sensing that you are wondering if he might have More of these Mastodon Moments up his sleeve?! Basic manners are Very important to me, and so is the way a man treats waiters, etc..is he kind to them or ugly, as if they were truly 'servants'? Go on vacation and see if this man enters your mind at any time. If not, it is Nextville for him!

Man #2: lol on the engineers! I do not care if He does not like birthdays and therefore does not like to do much on them, I want MY birthday to be something Just this side of that night parade at DisneyWorld, where Tinkerbelle miraculously appears! This is how engineers think, no? Except my Tall Man; he made my day just that way too, thank goodness, and that is when I began to truly fall for him...on 4/14 this year. He had them write Happy Birthday in Chocolate on my dessert--he was Made for me! :) So, some engineers can defy the Code! lol! Good luck with this man, and my bet is that he will beat the other guy out of the race, by More than a nose!

Roll on Little Rock!
keep us posted, please!

truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 10:25am

sorry about the eating etiquette!! that kinda does sound alittle disturbing. Guy #2 sounds like he might be a keeper. Let us know.

my meet last night with guy #3 didn't go well. First, I think I weighed more than him and he was not 5'10", maybe 5'9" if that. His head was bigger than his whole body! He talked too much, I think out of nervousness. I was kinda anxious for the dinner to be over. When I got home I sent him an email saying that it was nice to meet him but I didn't feel what I wanted to feel. He responded and said he was sorry if he came across wrong and wished me well.

We just keep on going don't we!!..................

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 1:58pm

Hi Sunshine....The fork incident wouldn't bother me. My late husband, who was well educated, etc., never seemed to get the hang of that. What does bother me is when people chew with their mouths open or pick at their teeth! Yuck!

The door thing isn't a biggie for me either. Though it is very nice when they do those little things. My BF of 8 mos. still does all those nice little things. But it's funny. Sometimes it's almmost annoying. It's like, "Stop already! I know your a nice guy!" LOL But this guy could be just a slug.

I think not that long ago there was a whole thread on this chivalry thing. If I remember correctly (now, don't kill me if I'm wrong) some of the guys said that while they do all those tings, some of them felt some women "preferred" they didn't...a sign of independence?

Anyway, if these aren't really big, red, flags for you, why not see him again?

I dunno. I've been thinking back to my active OLD days and I think sometimes I "looked" for things to be wrong and nit picked at little things rather that looking at the "big picture". JMO.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 2:04pm
Funny - I know what you mean. I never dated anyone like that (thank God as it is a turn off) however one of my best guy friends wife when they first started dating we all went out and that was the first time I've ever personally seen anyone cut a steak like a caveman. All I could think is, didn't her parents teach her how to cut a steak properly or how to use a table or steak knife? I was also brought up by an English mum who was big on table manner and etiquette but found it interesting ..... he sounds like he's not for you anyhow, but good read!!
 
 
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 2:52pm

Thanks everyone for your replies. I guess guy #1 just turned me off in different ways, so I doubt I'll call him when I get home from vacation as he asked me to.

I am excited about meeting guy #2 tonight, who has picked out a nice restaurant for us to meet at. It's kind of funny because at first when we were talking, he was sounding like he just wanted to meet for drinks, then as we have talked more on the phone the past couple of days, it has now turned into dinner. It just struck me funny! I guess I'm worthy of dinner now also! LOL!

But I'll let you guys know how it goes. I have a feeling this one will be more of a gentleman than #1.

Oh also, remember the guy I got together with about 2 weeks ago? We had dated a few times in the past (about 6 months ago) and there was attraction there, but his work schedule changed and a lot of other things so we couldn't seem to get our schedules together to go out again, then I started dating my last bf, so M and I just had emails about 2 weeks apart, until my ex bf and I broke up a month ago, then M and I went out again and it was great. M emailed me yesterday (he's on vacation for 2 weeks with his 2 boys) and said he has fond memories of when we saw eachother last and can't wait to get together again when he gets home. Yet he is aware that I will be gone for a week after he gets home. But anyway it made me feel good after I got his email, so it's like if tonight's meet isn't good with guy #2, oh well I have M to look forwared to seeing. He does have nice table manners! ;) He also called me last week to say hi when they were going hiking. So it seems like he's trying!

Well, wish me luck tonight....

Sunshine

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 5:09pm

Good Luck tonight Sunshine!! Here's hoping that #2 is a great guy and you end up having to juggle dates between him and M for a while. LOL

All the best,
Libra

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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 11:49pm

Hi LC and everyone,

Thanks for your well wishes. Well, I met with Guy #2 tonight and it went quite well. We had much more in common than I did with Guy #1. The restaurant was very nice and dinner was very nice. Conversation flowed easily and we covered many subjects. There seemed to be some chemistry happening - not overwhelming though. He seems like a guy ready to have a lady in his life, but who knows really!

He was very interesting and afterward at our cars started saying he'd let me have a few days to think about if I'd like to get together again, and I said I don't need a few days to think about it, that I would like that. His smile was very big at that point! So we didn't set a specific second date, but he knows that I am leaving Saturday for vacation. So I was happy with this meet.

Also, I got another email from M saying he is looking forward to seeing me soon and misses me. I think he is having too much "kid time" since he had not only his own two boys but three other children besides at his cottage! But he seems to be a great dad with his boys from the way he talks about them.

So right now I am feeling optimistic, but trying not to get my hopes up as I know guys can still ghost even when they seem totally interested when they have met you.

So LC, you may be right in that I'll be juggling the two of them, that would be nice!

Oh and Cupcake, I'm so glad that you and Tall Man are doing so well! Guy #2 is a tall man also, where M is 5'8" but very well proportioned! ;) But as I'm 5'1" most heights are fine with me, yet I don't like shorter than 5'8" usually.

Sunshine

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 8:26am
that's fantastic! I'm glad you had a great time with guy #2. There's nothing wrong with seeing 2 people. M sounds really sweet, too. Good luck!! :-)
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Registered: 10-27-2003
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 8:59am

I'm really glad to hear that things went well with #2 last night Sunshine. So it looks like you'll be juggling two guys afterall. Hehehe... It's been my experience with OLD it's either feast or famine. Enjoy the feast!!

Libra

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