Email protocol

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Email protocol
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Wed, 06-29-2005 - 9:02am

I should know this by now but just curious what others do....How soon do you return an email? I don't want to seem too eager all the time. (Like I'm sitting at my computer watching every minute to see if he emails me!...okay I really am...LOL, just kidding!)

Anyway, do you wait a couple of hours, a day or two or send one right away?

Motorcycle guy emailed me at work this morning and I haven't emailed back yet. I just want to wait alittle while.

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Registered: 10-11-2004
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 9:35am
In the beginning, I usually wait one day - it doesn't make you appear too eager, but you're still getting back to them in enough time to let them know you're interested.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 10:14am

Did he ask you out in his email (reply promptly) or was he just chatting (tonight should be fine)? In any case, same day replies are not a sign of desperation. Everybody seems to have constant access to their mail these days.

BTW, you're analyzing again. Just so you are aware.

amjay




Edited 6/29/2005 10:18 am ET ET by amjay45
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Registered: 10-27-2003
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 10:42am

I agree with Amjay Donna. Same day replies do not make you seem desperate. IMHO waiting more than a day (unless your unable to answer) could send the message that you're not all that interested. Waiting a couple of hours or until this evening is fine.

Good Luck!
Libra

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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 11:33am

I have found that there is no set rule of thumb with anything.

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Registered: 09-15-2003
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 11:53am

Do what your instincts tell you to do. Besides, when you send an email don't you prefer to receive an answer sooner rather than later?

Question though: I thought I remembered you posting the other day that you thought things were just "platonic" with this guy. Are you getting excited and "overanalyzing" because it's a guy whose possibly interested or because it's THIS guy? Just a question I ask myself when I find myself overanalyzing. :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 12:05pm
no, I think the guy that was platonic was one that cancelled on me over the weekend. This guy I could get very excited about but I'm trying not to over do it.
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Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 1:50pm

Hi Donna,

I wouldn't answer the email as soon as it comes in, but maybe wait a few hours or later in the day as others have said. I know it's hard in the beginning to be patient, but you have to some. Good luck!

Sunshine

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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 11:26pm

Gee is there email protocol?? Well it depends on the situation:

I tend to mirror a man's response time. Let's say, if I initiate an email (or phone call) and he takes a week to return the call and then I call again and he takes another week; well whenever he writes or call I will wait a week and then respond. Usually this type of guy I lose interest in REAL QUICK!!!

Well since I've been doing this for so long, emailing (like telephone calls) I keep to a mimimum. If someone emails/calls me say Monday, then I write/call them back on Monday. Of course, I don't do the 2-3 hour phone conversations; or emailing for hours. Once we have met, then I may converse for longer periods of time but not before the meeting. Not into creating the fantasy/illusion.

It's okay to wait a while but I would write motorcycle guy back today.

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Registered: 03-17-2005
In reply to: donna710
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 5:31pm
Too late.