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| Thu, 06-30-2005 - 9:16pm |
I am sure, this topic was covered many times but here it goes..
I had a 1st meet with a guy yesterday. He seems to like me, we spent a long evening together and he said that he would definetely like to see me again. He said that he would call on Fri to set up plans for the weekend. HOWEVER..
He is on-line right now and I haven't heard from him all day today! I know he said that he will call on fri but in my opinion if a guy really likes you - he would call/e-mail since he is on-line anyway, right?
Edited 6/30/2005 9:21 pm ET ET by ivosoh
I had a 1st meet with a guy yesterday. He seems to like me, we spent a long evening together and he said that he would definetely like to see me again. He said that he would call on Fri to set up plans for the weekend. HOWEVER..
He is on-line right now and I haven't heard from him all day today! I know he said that he will call on fri but in my opinion if a guy really likes you - he would call/e-mail since he is on-line anyway, right?
Edited 6/30/2005 9:21 pm ET ET by ivosoh

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No, I wouldn't necessarily agree with that. You just saw each other yesterday, you already have tentative plans to get together again, he said he'd call tomorrow...I don't think that him not calling or emailing today means he's not all that interested.
Now, if he doesn't follow up with a phone call tomorrow, that would be a different story, but I wouldn't look on him not contacting you today as meaning anything, one way or the other.
Sheri
You can't let it bother you. Until you are exclusive with someone or seeing them quite often, they are usually still trolling the waters of OLD. Men and women both do this. But my question is why is he waiting until Friday to set up plans for the weekend? To me Friday is too close to the weekend to set up plans.
Why is he waiting so close to the weekend? I don't want to be a downer, but maybe he wants to see what other events he can plan first? Myself, I wouldn't want to appear too available and wouldn't make a date on Friday for Saturday since I'd feel that I would look too available. But that's just me. I would say that I make plans earlier in the week for the weekend and hope he'd get the hint. I hope he gets back to you and it works out.
Sunshine
Well, he is a lawyer and he is closing on a case. He was out of town all last weekend as well as this past Wed. He works long hours and is supposed to write a report by Friday. It sounds very legit as both times that I called him he was at work and in the middle of conversation with someone. He did say that this week he has been working long hours.
I don't know what is wrong with him. He is 39,very easy on the eyes, speaks 3 languages, why isn't he married?
He will probably call on Friday. I understand the gist of your question though, meaning if you are so into me and want to see me again, then why wait till Friday?
As far as him being online, probably so! He could be chatting or whatever (hard to speculate) -- but you both don't know each other yet!! Right now there seemingly is an interest.
You will drive yourself crazy trying to analyze the situation and/or checking out his online activity. Remember, you see him online and he can also see you online.
Take a chill pill, go with the flow and see what progresses. In the meantime, keep your options open!!
You will drive yourself crazy trying to analyze the situation and/or checking out his online activity. Remember, you see him online and he can also see you online.
Thank you! Whenever I read someone 's concerned about a person being online I always think this. Sure, there's the possibiity they don't know you're online, but the fact remains that you are and not contacting them either, they're just not hiding the fact.
A woman must do what he can't.

MS39, successful and speaks three languages ¡V he¡¦s picky and getting married doesn¡¦t mean you¡¦re more capable of a loving relationship ¡V he hasn¡¦t met the right one ¡V be happy he¡¦s single to date you ƒº.
As soon as you put it your head ¡V whatever happens they come around, don¡¦t think about it so much. Jokingly I said to a friend regarding a new guy we¡¦ll call him ¡§A¡¨ I said watch he¡¦ll ghost on me, as soon as I said that and put him out of my head he called and we¡¦re meeting Sunday, ha! Have the attitude of if things happen great and if not, it¡¦s not in the cards!!!
Cheers,
SP
ha-ha, you are right that is if he calls today because I am NOT calling him :)
I think it's a guy thing to do in early stages - to call/e-mail. Right?
:) :)
Hi Ivos,
You said,"...I don't know what is wrong with him. He is 39,very easy on the eyes, speaks 3 languages, why isn't he married?..."
I'm finding that the guys I have met that are in their later 30's seem to mainly have committment issues of some sort. Theyt talk about the LTR to lure you in to dating and possibly for sex (in their minds) but they really don't want to do what it takes to be in a relationship.
They've had a single life that is exactly how they like it and are comfortable with, and they don't want to change their comfort zone by taking a chance of having a woman come into their lives that they'll have to possibly change some things in their lives for. I know not all men are like this in this age range and I do hope I come across one some day that actually wants a relationship! Some are also just toopicky and waiting for the "Perfect" woman and will never find her. Others are just so involved with their jobs and bring home so much work, that they have no time to develop a relationship in (I really watch for this one now to see if they want to give time to a relationship - I mean not all of their time but some of course!). They always say that they just haven't found the right woman yet, which could be true. Just a few possibilities, I'm sure there are plenty more...
I hope you met goes well on Sunday.
Sunshine
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