Homebody versus Outgoing Guy
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| Fri, 07-01-2005 - 12:30am |
Okay, the meet and greet I had early on this week (and a few others prior who are no longer around) is a homebody. Our first date was a free jazz concert in the park which he truly enjoyed.
My experience has been that when I meet men who are homebodies, I end up doing all the planning for a date. I don't have a problem but after a few times I'm usually feeling as if why they can't open up a newspaper and pick and plan an event to attend. Also, in this same scenario, these guys call, but they are not scheduling dates -- obviously cause they state they don't do or go anywhere (outside of work and home).
Gosh, I feel as if I'm a tour guide or entertainment planner! (smile) He calls but has no plans, but in the conversation wants to know what I'm doing and if he can come along. Geez don't they have any interest! Well of course they do (fishing, hiking, going to the beach) according to their profile, but it's been years since they have done it.
Regardless, it's nice that these men are open to doing different things, but for me it ends up turning me off because they don't have any particular hobby or they can't bring something new and exciting to the table for me! Of course, on top of that NO VIBE/CHEMISTRY!!
Anyone else experience this and how do you handle this?

It sounds like the homebody type of guys don't really appeal to you. So I guess if it were me and I felt like that, I wouldn't see them again.
Yet, I have a friend who is 16 years older than her husband (they've been married 21 years) and she is a planner and he is a follower and their arrangement works perfectly as they do all the things she loves to do (and some he likes also) and he doesn't have to figure out the details but just does them with her, since she loves to do that! So it can work! I guess it depends on what the people want from a relationship. My friend sees her husband's follower status as a positive thing. Yet if he were the type who was a work-oholic and didn't like to leave the house, then that would be a problem for both of them.
I think maybe after meeting a homebody or possibly a shy type guy for the first time, he may also be afraid of suggesting an activity that he thinks we may not like, so instead waits for our suggestion to be on the safe side.
Myself, I tend to like more of the outgoing type guys, but staying at home sometimes can be a good thing also.
Sunshine
Edited 7/1/2005 6:29 pm ET ET by sunshinesmiles2