Indecisiveness..driving me crazy!
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Indecisiveness..driving me crazy!
| Fri, 07-01-2005 - 12:08pm |
Motorcycle guy and I have been emailing the past several days and text messaged a few times yesterday. Earlier in the week he mentioned getting together this weekend (he said he was supposed to play golf but could blow it off). Then he says he'll let me know Thursday becuase his truck was in the shop. So he called last night and we talked for almost 2 hrs, which was fine with me. We talked about getting together near him (he's 2 1/2 hrs away) and going out on his boat. Then he said due to weather he'd let me know Friday whether it would be Saturday or Sunday. So I emailed him this morning and said Sunday would work better for me. He responds that would be fine and what did I want to do? Then he lists about 6 things we could do. HELLO...didn't we decide on a boat ride?!!! Now he's suggesting getting together someplace more inbetween OR having dinner and a movie OR taking a bike ride OR boating OR hang out at his pool OR what I want to do!! WTH!! Make up your mind already! It's driving me crazy.... Any advice!??? (and I guess the golf thing just went away!!)

I notice this type of situation is common with OLD -- ie lots of Active People With Lots to Do talking about what to do but not always doing it.
Here's what I do with these people. This most likely stems from the fact that I detest chatting on the phone so much that I've become efficient with words. What I call being proactive -- the slightest mention of Doing Something and I leap into commitment mode. When? Where? What? Okay, it's a date. Let's touch base on X-day to firm things up. See ya!
donna, if you've spoken for 2 hours on the phone and still haven't solidified plans, you need to be more proactive. For example, when he listed the 6 Things We Could Do, in your place I would have jumped in with the thing I really wanted to do. Simple as that.
The added bonus here, donna, is if you took a more proactive role in your dating life you wouldn't have to wonder about so many things.
amjay
then I said let's go boating and get lunch.
So, hopefully that will be it!! Decision made.
he emails back and says "cool, I'll let you decide what to do. So when will you arrive Sunday so I will know what I need to do tomorrow."
umm... I DID DECIDE!! my head is spinning....
It is still simple, if you want it to be. "Like I said, I want to go boating. Will get there around x o'clock. See ya!"
End of convo.
Hey Donna, have a great time with motorcycle guy!
Sunshine