New here.... but not to online dating

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Registered: 07-11-2005
New here.... but not to online dating
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Mon, 07-11-2005 - 4:31pm
Hi all.... wanted your opinion... I've been doing the online dating scene for 2-1/2 years. I'm divorced and looking for a long-term relationship which is written in my online profile. Here's my Q: When you meet a man (or woman), and you hit it off on the 1st & 2nd dates, when should the topic of "how long are you staying on the site" come up? This issue has come up before .... I don't want to push the guy and yet (quite honestly) it annoys me to see him "online" within in the site. I can check his status without actually logging on so he doesn't see me online. I'm curious as to how you approach the subject... would love to hear from any of the men as well. Thanks. NJG
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 4:42pm

Hi, njgirl, welcome to the board.

Here is the link to the OLD website jk from this board put together. The link is to the faq page, which answers your question:

http://cl-jhoover21-ivil.tripod.com/id61.html

Good luck!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 4:44pm

I don't bring it up until we've been dating long enough for me to consider dating him exclusively...and for me, that usually 6-8 weeks of steady dating. I'm dating other people in the meantime, so I assume he is too! I don't believe in putting all your eggs in one basket before you've spent quite a bit of time with someone new. When we do discuss and agree to exclusivity (and that talk will come before we sleep together, FWIW), I specifically include a discussion of taking down profiles.

But, if you feel strongly that you want exclusivity after just one or two dates, then that's your perogative, and you should bring it up. Just be prepared for him to have a different view...but that doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested...he just might be like me and want to take his time getting to know you before he closes off other options.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 8:35am

Hello Nigirl-


Welcome to the board.

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