yep, as I thought

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yep, as I thought
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Mon, 07-11-2005 - 5:55pm
The lawyer man just called and we chatted a bit and then he said that he has doubts. He said that his gut feel tells him that he is not sure about us. I said that I felt the same way and said that "perhaps it would work better for him to date someone younger and without children" and he said "yes".
In the middle of the conversation I felt he started having doubts about his decision so he goes "I really like you", than 2 minutes later "I will miss you" and I said "why?" and than he goes "maybe we will get together again sometime" and I said "I don't do that and you should stick to your gut feel". I said "remember I told you that I never go back, only forward".. He was all wishy/washy. I told him that he should stop dancing around and stick to his decision.
Man, what a trip! See, my gut feel was right too! You live and you learn!


Edited 7/11/2005 6:14 pm ET ET by ivosoh
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In reply to: ivosoh
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 6:11pm

Ivosoh, I'm sorry that it didn't work out with Lawyer guy. You liked him I know, but you were smart to listen to your gut instincts. You do live and learn but that doesn't always make it easy. Hang in there, there is a guy out there that is right for you and will accept you unconditionally and realize he's found a real prize and treat you as such. As we always say.......NEXT!!

All the best,
Libra

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In reply to: ivosoh
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 6:28pm

Bummer – better to have found out now than later. Remain positive though – you’ll find a good guy!!

I had to let B go and he took it very well and I basically said that I didn’t want a commitment from him and after 6 weeks I wanted to keep dating so to be fair its best we parted ways and he appreciated my honesty. Things are well with A – see below – wishing u the same kind of luck! That’s what dating is about – trying um on for size and see how they fit!

SP

 
 
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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: ivosoh
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 6:37pm
Well, to be honest I am bummed out. Usually I am the one breaking things off. I REALLY liked this man. I think he likes me as a fun date and we did have good time/fun conversations together. I predict he will reminisce about this. I didn't want to agree to "get together" sometime because if he can't deal with my having a child - I don't want to waste my time.
He started rumbling in the middle of the conversation when I told him that it was fine and that he should stick to his decision. I clearly felt hesitation in his voice. Well, he made his bed so he should sleep in it.


Edited 7/13/2005 6:16 pm ET ET by ivosoh
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In reply to: ivosoh
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 6:55pm

Good for you – your strong! Sorry it didn’t work out.

SP

 
 
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In reply to: ivosoh
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 7:44am

Hi, I am sorry it did not work out for you... don't know if it's any consolation, but my seemingly great new guy did the same thing to me yesterday! I find it a little bit humiliating, but it will be fine. Keep telling yourself there's nôthing wrong with you, it's just that he wasn't right.

NEXT!
Clem xx

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Registered: 05-25-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 10:11am
You did the absolute right thing. If he is not 100% into you and appreciating you then he is NOT worth it. I am glad you are so strong. And I know there is a better one around the corner - sometimes they are directly preceeded by imbeciles.
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Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 2:37pm
Thanks everyone!
The more I digest this, the more angry I get.
I find his proposition to me VERY offensive - it's like "I don't want to date you" but I would like to "hang out" with you because you are just so cute and we had so much fun together and hopefully he get some commitment- free sex.
What a sleazeball! NEXT!!


Edited 7/13/2005 2:38 pm ET ET by ivos2004
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In reply to: ivosoh
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 2:43pm
I am sorry about your guy, we must be patient - there will be the one out there that likes/wants us as much as we do them! Always remember "don't waste the pretty" on the wrong guy!
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