"Hooking Up" Debriefing...

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"Hooking Up" Debriefing...
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Thu, 07-14-2005 - 9:59pm

Did anyone else notice that the name of the Executive Producer was "Terrence WRONG"???

What, they couldn't find Mr. RIGHT to produce the thing...??!!! :-)

Tracy

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Thu, 07-14-2005 - 10:52pm

LOL! I noticed the same thing about the producer's name. How funny!

I have lived every date on that show thus far. Very strange, but also made me feel better & not as alone in my experience.

I do think Cynthia (the speed dater) has some MAJOR issues that keep her from having any good dates. True, a couple of those guys were losers anyway, but the guy who took her to Blue Man Group didn't seem like much of a creep to me...just called her on her negativity, IMO. Of course, we don't get to see the entire date, so I can only base my thoughts on what I saw.

I'm "hooked" on Hooking Up, though. I'll keep watching, even though I'm at work when it's on. Luckily, I work for the cable company where I get paid to monitor TV channels all day. :)

Annie

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Thu, 07-14-2005 - 10:52pm

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LOL
I did notice that.
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My thoughts on the women and their dates...

Amy (28 year-old real estate broker from the midwest)...Anyone notice the glam photo she has on her online profile? Question...Would you date a professional poker player? Or is that a red flag? Who else thinks Chris has noticed how smitten Amy is and is planning to use that to his advantage...at least until he gets bored and moves on...? (Confession time...once and only once I was so attracted to a date that I suspended my better judgement. I saw the red flags on the first date....but he was a really good kisser.)

Cynthia (33 year-old hair salon manager)...I suspect that she is rather jaded and cynical. Her attitude might be effecting her dating luck. Self-fulfilling prophecy perhaps? If you expect jerks and liars you get jerks and liars. Or maybe some of her dates really are nice guys but her attitude draws out their dark sides. But that Fabio wannabe was too funny. I've met men who clearly posted old photos. But I've never had the chutzpah to call them on it. I've also never had a friend "rescue" me from a bad date. NOTE: Do not underestimate the value of a 30 min coffee meeting for a first online date.

Claire (28 year-old ad exec.)....Could she have possibly opened her mouth any wider while incessently chewing on gum? Notice how before each new first meet she commented that she has "a really good feeling" about this one? It's good to have a positive attitude...but I think she needs to work on keeping her expectations in check. I can relate to what she felt during her first meet. It sucks to meet a nice guy with whom you have fun....only to find that there is no chemistry. With Josh...major chemistry guy...I'm assuming (hoping) that they had more dates that what we were shown before bringing him before the review board. I mean, it's one thing to invite someone you've just started dating to hang with your friends....quite another to leave him alone with them and subject him to an interrogation.

Lisa (36 year-old doctor)....I'm dying to know what she does have posted in her profile. She doesn't have a photo. She doesn't list her age. She doesn't reveal her occupation. Frankly, I'm surprised that she gets any dates this way. And she LIES in person because that's part of her strategy. She wants her dates to know HER so she doesn't want to give any info that will potentially create a biased opinion. Hello?? How is your date going to get to know you if you hide who you are and lie about...well...apparantly everything. And she won't post a photo b/c it's not professional - or whatever she said - but she'll go on t.v. to talk about her online dates and allow cameras to capture her lying for millions to see?

This was actually fun to watch. I'm looking foward to part II

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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 12:19am

I had many of the same thoughts as you JK about the ladies.

OK, the one guy says he won't be with anyone on antidepressants and she tells him she's on Paxil on date two, yet he continues to see her still yet seems so cocky about his dating records - and no I wouldn't date a professional poker player either! But for that girl to come right out and say she is looking for a husband would scare any guy off I feel, even if he were one of the *RARE* ones that is actually looking for a LTR also. But I wondered when she said that to him if SHE was trying to scare him off after she heard his comments about people on antidepressants. It kind of irritated me even and I don't take them! I would have nexted him after that cockiness...not my type for sure.

The salon manager is quite negative and tries to come off as positive, but I do think her attitude is a hindrance and comes through to her dates - yet I did feel sorry for her with the hippy dude! I had questions about some of her pics posted on her profile, as some were more revealing and I thought might hint that she is about sex a lot and bring in the wrong kind of men as I thought she wanted a LTR.

I also agree with you JK about the doctor lady and what exactly does she have in her profile! I can see why the doctor guy as turned off some. Yet he may have also wanted a lady who would be totally devoted to him and since he knew what a doctor's schedule entails and he knew that she couldn't be a lady totally devoted to him since she has a busy life of her own. He's a plastic surgeon so he's used to people praising him and his skills on a regular basis, jmo.

The real estate girl had me wondering also if on a second date, she brought her guy before her friends for questioning! We've all been there where we think a guy is interested in us, then he bails on us, but that's where we try not to let the expectations get too high, what we talk about on this board. But I did feel sorry for her. The show would be better if it stated what date it was, like 2 or 3, etc.

I don't think the show really showed the true steps taken to actually *get* to a meet and maybe should have done that with at least one or two of the ladies. It was like they picked out the guy from online, then the next thing you knew they were calling the guy and meeting him! For anyone who has never tried OLD, this wouldn't show a true depiction of the steps you actually go through, but then I realize they are working with a short time frame and can't show everything and are mainly doing this to entertain and get high ratings, not to educate newbies or other OLD people about the processes involved in OLD.

Yet I agree that seeing what these ladies went through and felt, makes you realize others are feeling as you have also about OLD with the frustrations and hurt feelings, yet enduring it in hopes of finding the right guy... My skeptical mind also wonders how much of this show is staged! Yet I'll watch it again...

Sunshine

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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 1:09am

Loved the show - better than I expected.

I ditto everyone's thoughts. I was surprised Claire brought Josh out to meet her friends and be left for questioning - that's not cool. I believe it was only their second date. Usually you know by date two if it's going to work or not hence why he let her go.

The DOC needs to be honest - she can't continue to lie about what she does - that is a huge part of her life.

Looking forward to next week as well!!

SP

 
 
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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 1:09am


My thoughts

Cynthia-
yes very jaded and cynical.. I do think the speed dater guy wasn't a bad guy , he was being honest and direct w/ her as she was soo negative w/ him. It was n't him at all totally her. I think this is why she is not getting good dates too

Amy= I also wondered, a south dakota girl who is looking for a husband dating a poker player. and just doesn't seem like her type. She seems very conservative the way she dresses and he is soo different. and He seems like a player type talking about all his dates.. They don't seem to be a match to me. Just my opinion. I think he is just the type to come on strong and will probably move on.. But i could be wrong.

Claire- ok couldn't figure out what chemistry there was between her and Josh. I was surprised she was so into him There first date didn't seem like they clicked at all. It seemed she clicked better w the first date. Apparently she felt something and he realy didn't and I didn't see it on the first date at all w/ him. He just seemed so not into her, maybe he dated her just for fun or to get some.. don't know

The dr. yes don't know how she gets dates and she is very vague about things which can be a turn off.
show was quite interesting and will continue to watch.

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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 1:14am

Yep, yep, and yep. Cynthia is really negative (although the guy with the hair WAS a nightmare!), I think Amy will get way hurt by that guy...and I totally was like, huh? about Claire feeling that Josh was such a good match for her.

The show was definitely better than I expected...I set TIVO for a season pass ;-).

Sheri

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 8:43am

I thought that Claire's date with Josh wasn't going too well, especially when she mentioned Tom Ridge and got a blank stare from him.

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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 9:07am

Honestly, for me, reading the posts on this board is far more interesting than watching the show. Feels a lot more real, too.

Jouyouskaya is right. If Doc lady were protecting her face and profession online, why would she appear on national TV? I am always sceptical about these reality shows. Well, I guess I’ll still watch it, if I have time. Just to read your comments.

Toria

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 9:34am

I agree with everyone. Does Amy really think she's going to get the white picket fence with a professional poker player? I think it would be more like him in smokey bar rooms and her home alone changing diapers.

JK, you said exactly what I thought about the dr. Why have your face on TV if you won't have it on your profile?

I was a little surprised at the format of the show. I expected it to go into more definition about OLD for the viewers who don't know and I also thought that maybe the women and men would be interviewed more and asked how they got into it, how long they'd been doing it etc. I also think a "town hall" type discussion in the last episode would be good. A segment where all the men and women who participated meet and openly discuss what they are looking for and how they view OLD daters in general, maybe discuss good profiles etc. Hopefully, Mr. Wrong, thought of that. I too caught that and thought it was funny.

I would also like to see some older people. It's not just people in their 20's and 30's doing OLD. JMHO.. I'll continue to watch.

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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 10:00am

I loved this show.

CL-Truewild1969

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