Getting past looks

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Registered: 10-11-2004
Getting past looks
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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 9:05am
I went out on a first date last night with someone that I met on line. Good guy, great conversation, but I'm not physically attracted to him. How do you get past that? I know looks aren't everything, but is it too much to want the whole package? How do I convince myself to go out with him again because he was a nice guy and not worry so much about his physical appearance?
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 9:12am
Honestly, I probably wouldn't go out with him again if it were me.

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:20am
I think you have to decide if you think his looks will grow on you or if there is zero attraction physically. I am one who usually knows as soon as I meet them whether there is any attraction or not. If there is zero physical attraction, there is usually zero chance of wanting to get to know them any better. Been on one too many blind dates, I guess.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:29am

ITA!

Because looks aren't everything, I can find someone not attractive necessarily in the looks department but be physically attracted because their personality, humor and their essence just gets me going...and then their looks kind of grow on you. But if there is ZERO attraction then doubtful it can grow.

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 10:45am

You will know. Just don't have a desparate mindset. If someone turns you on ...you'll know it in due time. If someone turns you OFF i mean...turn off at first site..ya know sometimes there are real turn offs...yucky nasty teeth, girlie-hips (my two)lol, If there are no preferences that are a turn off right away...how bout one more date (if the opportunity arises) to see...you'll know your answer.

Never go out with anyone too long when there is no chemistry. Gotta have feeling for it pretty soon rather than later. Be in tuned with yourself as well.

Lizzie