Plans

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Plans
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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:48am
What are your thoughts on this:
Motorcycle guy and I are still talking/emailing/texting - we're into the third week - that's big for me! He volunteers with the rescue squad where he lives and has been on duty 2 nights this week and one night he had a mtg with them and one night he had a mtg with his bike group, so communication this week has been thru emails - no actual phone calls this week. Which I'm not too worried about.
He has made plans for us to go on an overnight motorcycle ride up to PA in mid-August and another one to W.VA in October....but...no plans for anything sooner. Should I suggest something or see what he wants to do? I'm always afraid to 'take the lead' and get rejected. But I don't want to make it a big deal. Shoot, I'm just happy he still wants to see me!! :-)
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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:55am

He didn't mention any weekend plans since he was busy? *A* was moving all week so we decided last Saturday on this Saturday ;-).

Maybe shoot him an email to say "hi" and that you were thinking of him and hoping to see him soon (especially since you have other future plans). I know you prefer he take the lead but it's the weekend, you love hanging out with him it's only natural. You don't suspect he assumes you two are on for the weekend do you?

Let us know what happens!!! Week two for me so I hear ya, ha!

SP

 
 
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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:59am

Yes, what types of things do you enjoy doing? Invite him to something you enjoy!!

He definitely has set up future plans and that's a good thing. Go for it!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 12:00pm
I did tell him yesterday that since being with him the past 3 weekends that this weekend was going to be boring because my son has a friend coming over and then a cub scout picnic and his reply was "you have to take care of the most important little guy in your life and I can wait"...so this weekend was kinda already taken care of. I just don't want him to see anyone else!!! hee hee hee...maybe I'll get up the nerve and ask him about coming down and visiting next weekend..
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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 12:02pm

That's an even better sign - you already have plans otherwise you'd be doing something with him.

Yes, suggest something next weekend aka sporting event, concert, picnic - whatever you two enjoy doing. Heck, even make him a romantic meal and get a block buster - that sounds nice and quality time.

SP

 
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 12:42pm

okay, now I'm being paraniod. This is what he just sent me when I asked about getting together:
"..As for seeing me sooner, that depends on schedules. I will put together a schedule of events for the next month and send it to you sometime this weekend. I would like to get over your way again, but will work around family issues."...

does that sound like I'm just a friend to go on bike trips with??

overanalyzing..........overanalyzing.........overanalyzing..........

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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 12:59pm
I’d be overanalyzing too – that’s very odd unless you both have very tight schedules but what happened to the romance and spontaneity? Not sure – lets see what everyone else says. Hoping the best for you as meeting someone you like with mutual chemistry is RARE and last nights “Hooking Up” confirmed how us single women feel in our 30’s, 40’s +.
 
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 1:23pm
oh, he also mentioned in his email about this other woman who was sending notes to a few of the single guys at the last motorcycle ride (he got one and told me about it) and said "Talk about fishing!!" ..."Glad I hooked you instead of her!!"
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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 1:25pm
Sounds to me like he's just trying to be considerate of your parenting obligations.


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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 4:05pm

I think you need to ask yourself what do you want?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: donna710
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 4:37pm

He, he. Had to laugh - you're such a scorpio - all or nothing. Love me or leave me - none of this wishy washing business, LOL

Must be Friday - feeling silly, ha!

SP