meeting offline for sex

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Registered: 05-27-2005
meeting offline for sex
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:28pm
Do you think many people chat with someone online a few times and then meet for sex without even meeting for coffee or something beforehand? I know someone who is considering doing this.

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:46pm
every day, every hour, and every minute of the day..across the USA.
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Registered: 01-11-2005
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 3:38pm

I feel as though everyone must be because all the guys I meet online, that's all they want to do is have sex with a stranger, and not establish anything else. I don't know why everyone wants to do this either.

I would rather establish something else, like go on a date, to a movie or park, or whatever, something, but not jsut have sex with a stranger for pete's sake. I mean, I have not met one guy who wants to actually get to know me instead of having sex with a stranger.

All I said in my ad was I would like to meet friends, relax and have fun. No where in that sentence did I ever say "I want to have sex with strangers". If I wanted that, I would be posting my ad on adultfriendfinder...it's like "hello, duh, anyone home?"

Very frustrating.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 4:13pm
Hah!

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 4:19pm

I would suggest changing the wanting to relax and have fun to "searching for a meaningful relationship" or "desiring to make a connection"

 

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 4:35pm
Ummm yeah there are entire websites for it.
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Registered: 05-27-2005
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 4:51pm
Well, I just finished a chat with a guy from the same site that the person I was referring to chats with her guy. I guess they all want the same thing there. He asked me if I ever get nude pics of guys sent to me because he get's nude pics of women. I said no and, jokingly, asked him if he had any pics of himself to send me. He said he probably does. He reminded me that he had a cam and could show me more on there. I started to get caught up in the moment and we started talking about him coming here so that we could have sex. Stupid on my part, I know. He then showed me his private parts via the cam and of course, I was still caught in the moment and feeling all hot and bothered or however you want to put it, joked with him again and before he left, he told me to let him know when my place would be free for him to come. He's nice-looking and seems nice on msn anyway. That's why I started feeling the way I did. I want to have sex with him but I want to get to know him better in person first. He doesn't want that though. He's just into the sex part, that's how I take it anyway.


Edited 7/16/2005 4:53 pm ET ET by dream_angel2005
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 4:54pm
No offense but you seem very niave. If you want to get to know someone beforehand, do not get into sexual conversations, or exchange nude photos or do anything sexual through webcam. Nobody will take you seriously for a relationship beyond just sex.
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Registered: 05-27-2005
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 5:05pm
I know it was wrong but it's just that I've been feeling a lot of different emotions lately and he just showed up at the wrong time.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 5:14pm

I didn't say it was wrong. If you are only interested in sex than have fun, but just don't expect a loving committed relationship by IM's based around sex, webcams focused on sex and dates focused around getting sex.

It's not wrong to just want sex, but don't disillusion yourself that it would be anything more than that.

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 7:21pm
I think it can be a male thing to just jump into the sack with a stranger before even a real conversation...it's the same reason some guys can't grasp the concept of foreplay as a part of sex. These guys are just selfish. Not all, but the ones who want to get straight to dessert before even the salad or meal.

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