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cautious of possibilities
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 11:16pm |
Ok, I am pretty excited - just chatted with a new prospect. I am very interested and we know some people in common! He dated this lady and I work with her sister! He better have good references :)
I am so nervous and paranoid at the same time.
The lawyer man that I went out with was looking for someone with nice connections and finances - I am so afraid that this guy is the same way. I don't know for sure but how would I gently convey to him that although I am very well educated, have good manners and am pretty worldly - I am really a middle class, single mom, making ok money but not in 6 figures.
I come from a family of doctors and my brother is MD too but they are in a different country and I don't want for people to think that I have some sort of trust fund because I do not even though my parents do help me a little but I am pretty much on my own.
Any advice?
I am so nervous and paranoid at the same time.
The lawyer man that I went out with was looking for someone with nice connections and finances - I am so afraid that this guy is the same way. I don't know for sure but how would I gently convey to him that although I am very well educated, have good manners and am pretty worldly - I am really a middle class, single mom, making ok money but not in 6 figures.
I come from a family of doctors and my brother is MD too but they are in a different country and I don't want for people to think that I have some sort of trust fund because I do not even though my parents do help me a little but I am pretty much on my own.
Any advice?

Here's my advice to you - don't let past experiences or men you date control how you think or date on your next internet meeting. We are all products of our past if we let it. Instead of worrying that this guy will want to know your finances or social status - focus on learning about him and having fun - let him adore you for your essence, soul and charisma. 90% of men don't care about a woman's finances - it's usally the other way around. They just care that's she responsible and pays her bills. This fellow you dated was the exception to the rule so don't even sweat it, seriously. You're mind is racing with "what if's already" and you haven't even given the new guy a chance to proove he's someone worth getting to know.
Remember, confidence is key. Just be yourself and you can't go wrong. If he doesn't accept you for you then he's not worth getting to know. However I think you'll be pleasantly surprised if you let go of the past and start with a clean slate and just be youself - no need to explain anything my darling - don't even go there - he might wonder why on earth your bringing it up as it's probably not even on the front of his mind.
Good luck and I hope you two have a nice connection!!!
Ms. Peanut
Glad to hear of another prospect.
I wonder if your last experience has encouraged your worry unnecessarily? Finances simply don't come up with me. Our profiles state our current situation and that seems to satisfy people.
Did he specify an income range for his match? This should tell you where he stands on the issue. The majority of profiles I've read had "any" to income of date.
What luck that you know someone he knows! Just watch out for plain gossip, which rarely has anything to do with reality. As you see more of Lover Boy you will be able to decide for yourself what kind of man he is.
Good luck, have fun, and stop worrying!
amjay