Anyway to unmess a mess-up?
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| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 11:53pm |
Hi :)
I've been reading this board for a few days now, and hope no one minds me jumping in and posting a question.
For the past few years, I've been VERY busy and not dating much. I've also gained wait and have some self-esteem issues from it. I am, however, quite honest about that in my OLD profiles. (Well, the weight gain, not the issues.)
I was talking to a man a few weeks ago who I really liked. Very charming, VERY much my "type", and I was looking forward to getting to know him. In his profile, he never said anything about body types, etc. He did, however, mention that self-esteems is important.
So he asked me about the "few extra lbs" thing, and I explained to him. He asked how much I had to lose, etc, and I was honest. I also told him I considered holding off on teasing him (yes, I initiated, b/c I knew he kept looking at my profile, and I thought he was really good looking) til I lost the weight. (My schedule will normalize after next week for the first time in 4 years.) He said he didn't care, but got more distant after that.
We met the next week, and it was great, but I stupidly "fooled around" with him. He was great for a day or two after, I had a minor self-esteem crisis, and he's been gone since.
Is there anything I can do to say "I'm sorry. I know you're stressed right now, I've been under stress to, but if you want to try this again, I'd like to also", or should I give up, accept the rejection, and move on before I seem any more pitiful? :)
TIA!
giJ

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Why would you apologize? If he's INTO you he'd call and date you bottom line. Don't chase him nor think it's something you did- cut your losses and I'm sorry it didn't work out. If he was the right guy you would know he was into you.
SP
Hmmm....I don't know how I'd take it if a guy asked me about my weight (even if I mentioned it in the profile that I was losing some).
I wouldn't tell anyone my weight either, it's none of their business. Try to have a current picture up on the website and it shouldn't be an issue.
My poor friend just had a date with someone that had old pictures up, when she took the train into boston she met up with him, she said he was at least 60 lbs heavier and had totally different hair had a jeri-curl. She wasn't happy! becuase now she's stuck in Boston with him.
I think if a guy ghosts I wouldn't waste my time emailing him in the least. It wouldn't be worth it.
Oh no....I didn't know people
You said it, sister! I've posted here before about those (not so good) old days. When I lived in Boston I did the newspaper personals because OLD didn't exist yet! I still can't believe I did it. For all of OLD's faults, it's definitely an improvement.
I absolutely...under any circumstances...would not contact him.
CL-Truewild1969
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Hi all,
I would like to thank you all for your input. I know I should just give it up. I'm talking with a number of men, have a number of dates set up (err... about 7 of them... 3 of whom have the same name. This is going to get confusing!) for when I get back to "reality" (I leave town this weekend for 2 weeks), and they all seems so very nice... Just not anything *I* am excited about.
Oh well, live and learn, right :)
Thanks again!
giJ
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