Who stood up who? Have you?
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| Tue, 07-19-2005 - 9:56pm |
Although I rarely pay attention to men on craigslist (the ads are so scungy, normally), I actually contacted this one man who sounded quite intelligent and unique; furthermore, although he wore dark glasses in his photo, he looked fairly attractive. After a short phone chat, we were supposed to meet for a bike ride, but I called it off as I was ill. The next weekend, we decided to attend one of the movies at a film festival (I had a pass, but he would pay his own way). We'd had a couple of chats on the phone, and I could tell that he'd be interesting to know, as he is well read and has ideas about art and literature, but he seemed a bit too assertive about his opinions for me to want to be with him a great deal. Now it is true that I do have a boyfriend, M, but we are not "exclusive." So given that, and the fact that I was sure no romance would come of this "date," I didn't consider myself to be cheating. (Although I did NOT tell M that I was going to meet another man at the cinema that night--ahem!)
Well, I waited under the marquee. I figured he would recognize me more easily than I would him, because he had seen my Yahoo photos and profile (I'd told him where to find it, and that I looked just like my photos), while I had only seen the little black & white photo he'd put on craigslist. I read the posters and glanced around, but didn't see anyone who might be him. Eventually everyone had gone inside, and I realized that there was one man lingering outside, drinking an iced tea. Could that be him?
I avoided catching his eye, but noticed that this man was....unattractive. Not what I expected at all. Oh, that's not him, I decided. I waited. Finally I went into the lobby, bought an iced tea, and went into the theater. He had also entered the lobby but had not approached me. Well, I thought, that must have been him: he was about the right height (just a bit shorter than me), about the right age, even about the right hair color (gray-white). But if it was him, why had he not approached ME? Good heavens, did he get cold feet? Ah, yes, I understood now: he realized that I was Too Beautiful for Him (to paraphrase the title of a French movie), and he did not dare approach. LOL Or....did he think, "That can't be her--she looks nothing like her photos!"
Anyhow, it made me think of last week's Hooking Up episode, where the woman decides to dump the OLD date who looks older than his photo. Of course, I would have attended the movie with this fellow, had he announced himself. On the other hand, maybe that wasn't my blind date after all!
So....have you ever stood up an OLD date when you saw him/her?

Oh, I so hate to admit this but yes, back in the days of truly blind dates (newspaper personals), I did this. I felt awful for doing it and still do, despite the fact that guys have done this to me as well. I wouldn't do it again. I like to think I'm more mature now (ha!).
I've never stood anyone up from OLD. However, there are a few it would have been better to stand up rather than sit miserably thru that first meet knowing it was going to be a complete waste of time once I had seen them in person.
Libra