First date....need your comments...
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| Thu, 07-21-2005 - 11:54pm |
Hi everyone,
I just went on a blind date with a guy and I am not sure if he is interested or not. We met on a dating website and I am really new to this so I need your help before I start getting my hope up.
Before going on our date we emailed a couple of times then talked on Tuesday and then he called me again this afternoon and we decided to meet tonight.
So we agreed to meet for a drink. When he first saw me he asked if I was happy with what I saw and I said that I was and he said the same thing. He paid for my drink so I thought that was nice.
During our conversation he said that I was prettier in person than on my photograph and he had already said he found me pretty on the photo I had sent him. He said he liked my hair. A friend of his called and he commented to his friend( who seemed to know that he was meeting me) that I had a nice smile.
Then where I got confused is that our date only lasted one hour. I suggested we go for walk and he said he could only walk for a while because he was tired. I thought that was kind of strange.
But, then he asked me if he could hold my hand. I said no because I had just met him. He also asked me to give him a kiss on the cheek and again I said no. He then gave me a kiss on the cheek and then held my hand for a long time. He said he would call me back.
So what do you guys think? Will he call again or was he just being polite?
Thanks for your advice.
Hugs,
Ginny

It's really hard to tell anything after just one date. There do seem to be a few strange things about this date. Perhaps others will disagree. His trying to hold your hand on the first date may be a red flag. You barely know each other. His asking for a kiss on the first date is also kind of yucky. The fact that the date only lasted an hour is a bit strange, although I know some people think an hour is perfectly acceptable for a first meeting. Finally, his talking to a friend during your short date sounds pretty bad.
I wouldn't count on hearing from him again. But he sounds perfectly awful to me so why would you want to?
the call, to me, was one of those "hey call me at this time incase this is a disaster" thingy or "i am gonna call my bud to see if his date is a dog" etc.
either way...very immature. Are you two young? If not under 22 or so...ack..run. If you are young...consider this a practice date. If you weren't feeling it to want him to hold your hand (and its ok not to if you are) he apparently got around to doing just as he wanted anyway. Want that?
Btw..i love practice dates...makes for great stories sometimes. Don't sweat them unless YOU are smitten. Doesnt sound like it to me that you are ...so dont see this so much as rejection if he doesnt call you...remember you have a choice in your happiness and satisfaction too...turn how you really feel about this guy outward not inward =)
good luck to you sweet one,
Lizzie
Hi Gin,
Roll on, Little Rock! Get back online and make other dates. The thing is...when someone IS into you, there is NO doubt about it. I did not understand this either, until I met Tall Man, who has never given me cause to wonder for One minute. If he IS, it will be so evident to you, that you will never ask yourself one question...you will already Know! I wish this for you, and every great person here on this board!
It sounds like he threw down a few speedbumps, with the being tired and answering his cell; i agree with the others here. Then, he decided to see how you were set to recieve affection, and when he hit the fence on that one, he cut bait. He is Not man enough for you, You deserve better! Ding! Next! If he calls again, fine, but don't sit and wait. Keep moving, and he can catch up to you.
As we say here, it gets to be the Candy Shop mentality;men (and women!) feel there might be something better around the corner, so they just go in half-heartedly, knowing they can get back online and browse many more potential dates. You gotta be focused enough to do better than that, or you don't play, imho!
Onward and Upward!
Truly,
Cupcake