What's the point?

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Registered: 03-19-2005
What's the point?
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Sat, 07-23-2005 - 8:24am
I've been getting lots of icebreakers in my personals mailbox. And when I reply I don't get any more responses. What's the point of asking 'I like your profile. Tell me more' and not even replying back? Is it a number thing? How many women they can get to respond to them?
And those who like to chat, but show no interest to meet. Wouldn't you think that after a few chats and some phone calls they're gonna want to meet?
I'm just bumming out. It's been 3 weeks, 72 messages/emails and no meets.
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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 07-23-2005 - 11:52am

If they are not paying members, they can send winks, ice-breakers, etc. but cannot do anything else until they join. This is probably why none of them are responding to your return ice_breakers. They are just waiting to see if they should dig into their shallow pockets ;)


 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-23-2005 - 11:57am

Re the icebreakers, I would assume that at least some of those men sending icebreakers but then never responding further are not subscribers. They probably sent the icebreaker hoping you'd email them and include your regular email address (which Yahoo still allows you to do) so they can contact you.

I've never understood the chat but never meet mentality so I don't really have an explanation for you, other than speculation that those men have no social skills and so are afraid to meet out. I guess there's also the possibility that some of them realized the two of you aren't a match during your chats and phone calls.

I hope things improve for you soon...it can definitely be a discouraging process if you let it get to you.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-19-2005
Sat, 07-23-2005 - 5:52pm
Would you suggest that I should add my email/yahoo IM ID when I reply to some of the icebreakers? Or at least to the ones I'm really interested in?
I'm getting abit funny about sending my IM/email out.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-23-2005 - 6:26pm

Well, there are a couple different schools of thought on that. I personally would add my email address if I were sending an email to a guy whose profile I really liked (and I have a separate yahoo account set up JUST for OLD, that has been carefully set up and reviewed to make sure there's nothing in it that shows my real name, etc.), but some people are of the view that if a guy is too cheap to subscribe, he can't be all that serious about meeting someone. I think there's some validity to that, but OTOH, he might just be taking a break from paying for a subscription as I do frequently myself.

I would NOT invite someone to IM me, but that's a personal preference...I don't like IM'ing with people prior to meeting them or early in the dating process. I only have a handful of people on my buddy list because I dislike the intrusiveness of IM'ing, plus I've found that guys in my age group at least who want to IM either just want cybersex or are into just chatting with a bunch of women and have no interest in actually meeting or dating.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Sun, 07-24-2005 - 12:53am

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That's where the block feature comes in. You can always use it if you want to discontinue communication with someone.

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Registered: 03-19-2005
Sun, 07-24-2005 - 7:55am

OK, I was really curious last night why no one was responding back to me. So, I picked a profile I was interested in (that I hadn't heard back from) and wrote him again with my email address. Sure enough, this morning I got 2 emails from the guy.

Now I know... Thanks everyone

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Registered: 05-20-2005
Sun, 07-24-2005 - 12:43pm
Try craigslist craigslist dot org (if it lists a area close to you). Its chat first then pics, it worked for me. It's an HTMLish site but its better then the window shopping for great picture stills (lol) that dating sites are, common curtiousy and woman do not pair up when it somes to dating sites, most are simply shallow or ridiculously unhealthy and they don't want to pay, go figure? It worked wonders for me, im near LA so theres a lot of people. Try date.com as well, its area specific. Icebreakers or winks never lead to anything. If you message someone, find a way to sneak your real email address in it, since most woman don't pay.