bad luck, bad timing or what

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bad luck, bad timing or what
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Sat, 07-23-2005 - 1:33pm

I just wanted to share this humorous (?)situation i am going through. And thankfully I am at a point where I can find it humorous rather than letting it get me down.
I started OLD about 4 years ago. About 3 years ago I met a man online and went on 2 dates (meets) with him. He was a nice guy, normal. But I had also met someone else that I clicked with and decided to pursue something with him. So I didn't see "B" again.
I ended up in a 2 year relationship that ended this past January (whole nuther story). And I decided that I needed time for me and even though I did have my profile up on a couple OLD sites (they are too darn addicting) I didn't go crazy trying to find Mr. Right. And besides the pickins are pretty slim in my age group (45-50) around here.

So anyway about 6 weeks ago I got an email from "B" the guy I went out twice with 3 years ago. It was a "hi, how are you, remeber me?" email so i wrote him back and we emailed, phoned a couple times then decided to go out for dinner. The day we were going to meet for dinner he called in the afternoon and said he had to cancel cause he was stuck down the Cape for work. OK fine no big deal. We set a date for 4 days later. (we talked on the phone, emailed between this). The day before we were going for try #2 he called and had to cancel cause he was flying to DC with his sister to see his new grandniece. I was like, ya ok whatever. So I basically wrote him off....not a big deal. He called from DC apologizing. Emailed a few times. I was very nonchalant with him. When he got back he emailed me and said that work has been crazy but after the end of the month things would slow down and we could do something. I never replied. It was getting humorous at this point. Didn't hear from him again....until yesterday. I get an email from him saying "hi, how's it going? Can I call you" He called me and asked if I wanted to go out to dinner. I said sure..... Please don't think I am crazy...this whole thing is not a big deal to me. I don't need a man I figured why not go for dinner....Sooooooooo 2 hours before we were going to meet he calls and says he just got a call and his son was being rushed to the hospital cause he fell off his bike and broke his arm...gotta cancel. I laughed and said "ya ok, I am not surprised". He called this morning apologizing and said could we please reschedule. I laughed and said "sure. when you have a free night again, call me. If I am free then maybe we can try again"
Like I am going to drop everything to go out with him...I think not.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 07-23-2005 - 2:18pm

Wow. Quite a few coincidences there, wouldn't you say? I get the feeling that this guy is in pay-back mode for what you did over 2 years ago. Just a poor loser who IMO "IS" a loser.


You have the right "whatever" attitude though, but if this happened to me 3 times, this guy would be excommunicated from my radar ;)


 

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 07-23-2005 - 2:35pm

Very humorous, thanks! You've got yourself a bit of a drama-prince there.

BTW, my Bad Angel tells me that he's in a relationship right now and is just sniffing around. Your thoughts on that?

To relieve boredom, I would continue almost-meeting with this guy, if only for the chance to hear his next few excuses! For example, he is eventually going to run out of relatives to run off to at the last minute! ROFL

amjay




Edited 7/23/2005 2:37 pm ET ET by amjay45
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Sat, 07-23-2005 - 2:41pm
I agree that he might be trying to pay you back for the past... but if you can laugh at his antics then it will be no payback at all. Imagine, he's going through all that trouble and really, you don't care whether you see him or not. If it's some kind of joke, the joke is on him.

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Registered: 01-01-2003
Sat, 07-23-2005 - 2:50pm

Drama prince...LOL, I like that. I had thought of maybe he is in a relationship and just playing games. Maybe he is but he ain't getting me, thats for darn sure. 6 or 8 months ago I would have been all worried and feeling bad for myself that this was happening but now I can laugh about it and maybe even have some fun with it. It may have taken me all of my 47 years to get to this comfort zone in my life but DANG I am glad I am here. I can have fun and see these men for what they are.
And, yes, I have already thought of "playing" along with him cause I can't wait to see what the next excuse is. And like you said, amjay...if nothing else it will relieve boredom...LOL.

Polly