Online Dating...No so taboo!

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Online Dating...No so taboo!
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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 2:03pm

With the recent serious "Hooking Up" airing on ABC, and an upcoming release of the movie "Matchmaker.com" I am curious to know how the image of OLD is changing?


I found it interesting that statistics report that 48 million people are Online Dating.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 2:11pm

With my friends they know how I met “the usual”. My family knows how I meet guys “the usual or OLD as we call it”. My last employer I put an ad up for him on match.com and wrote his profile, ha! The company I work for now is more conservative and I don’t share how I meet the guys I’m dating – doesn’t feel right. If I do I tell them I met them wherever our first date was, I just don’t have any desire to be caught up in “office gossip”. Plus they aren’t my friends per say just people I have to work with—I like to reveal as little about myself personally in my work environment where I’m at now – I’ve also had employers that were more like friends so they knew – as I said, I go case by case basis.

I went to a wedding last year and they made sure to tell me not to say they met on line but they met on a hike – the hike was their first date so for some it still is.

 
 
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:51pm

I think it is changing somewhat to how online dating is viewed, yet there are so many people who still don't know much about it and see it as weird or something, but I'd say that's mostly the people over 40. I just say, well it's a way to meet people that I wouldn't have had exposure to the traditional way - the dating part is the same. But with so many people using OLD it has to be changing for the better I would think.

Sunshine

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 7:02am

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Not so much the "norm" IMO, but definitely a

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 9:28am
I don't know if it's the "norm" or not yet, but it does seem to be common. My family and friends know that I'm online so when they ask "where did you meet?" they pretty much already know the answer!! I'm not embarassed about it...with the choices of men in my town, believe me, you have to look elsewhere!!
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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 12:08pm
For myself, I will say that I thought it was a sign of "desperation" to go online to meet someone. I had also heard a few horror stories from others who had done this, so that didn't encourage me either. After a really bad blind date, I joined a free online dating site just to "see" what they offered. Within only a few days, I started talking with a guy who lived only an hour from where I did. He had a demanding job and had his kids every other weekend. Our chats were sporadic, but because we lived so close, we decided to meet in a town midway between our houses. At that point, I was completely taken with him. Despite his hectic schedule (and mine), I thought that meeting him was all it would take to establish a "relationship". Even though he also acted quite interested in me, we only talked online ONE more time. After that, it was zilch. I'm still reeling from this bad experience since I find it hard to believe that so many people SAY they are interested in meeting someone, but then have no time to establish a relationship and make no effort to do so. I felt attraction on both our parts, (and he knew what I looked like beforehand) but it's apparent that he really wasn't wanting a committed relationship. I think men who are not available (for whatever reason) should not be on dating sites (same goes for women). His user name "just curious" should have read "just playing".
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 12:28pm

His user name should have been your first clue...no guy who truly is looking for a relationship would use that as a user name.

I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but now you know that it takes a lot more than one meeting to start a relationship, and that you shouldn't get your hopes up prior to meeting or have any expectations based on just one meeting.

Sheri