My profile???

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My profile???
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Sat, 07-30-2005 - 10:19pm

Hi everybody-


I am wondering if you wouldn't mind looking at my profile.

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Sat, 07-30-2005 - 10:31pm

"From a 1 to 10 she's a certified 20..."

First off, I don't understand what your title means. Does it mean you're certifiable?
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Sat, 07-30-2005 - 11:40pm

I think your profile is good...it could have a few more specifics about the things you enjoy but overall it's fine. I think there are two things you should consider changing though:

1. The heading. I've "known" you for a while on these boards and you certainly don't seem to be full of yourself, but the heading conveys that. I could see guys taking a look at that and going, "oh, she must be vain and high maintenance, no thanks."

2. You have "other" for your body type. I'm not a subscriber so I can't see whether you have any full length shots that show your body type, but I think a lot of guys would wonder why you put "other". From your profile, it sounds like "athletic" might be appropriate. Is there a reason you didn't choose that?

Sheri

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Sun, 07-31-2005 - 3:21am

Sparkle,
I agree 100% with Sheri. Great profile actually...but I would suggest a more balanced title (its ok to have good self esteem but it may come off as flaunting or high maintenance to suggest that you feel as if you are a 20...that may feel unapproachable to many, intimidating etc. I myself wouldnt want to date a 20 pt male because I am human and feel i'd never own up besides..no one is perfect...i like a lil humility or someoe who is human (imperfect).yada yada yada)..

also...you are beautiful and you work out...why not say you have an athletic body, you say you want someone into fitness themselves so its not like you fear someone looking for that.

Go girl and make those adjustments ...I think your profile sounds terrific. Lucky them =).
Lizzie

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Sun, 07-31-2005 - 12:30pm

Thanks for looking at my profile I appreciate it.

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Sun, 07-31-2005 - 12:49pm

Rightly or wrongly, most guys will read "curvy" as "overweight".

If you really don't think you are athletic, I would put average rather than other, unless you're more than a size 12-14 or so (at least that's what I would do).

I disagree with taking out what you're looking for (although maybe change "boyfriend" to "LTR with the right person" or something like that). If a guy is sincerely looking for a relationship, you saying that in your profile won't bother him. And hopefully it will weed out at least a few guys who know they are just looking for fun and sex.

Changing the answer about whether you want kids doesn't make any sense to me. If you're not sure, you're not sure.

Edited to add: I just looked at your revised ad and FWIW I thought the picture you had as a lead photo yesterday was MUCH, much better than the one you have as the lead photo now.

Sheri




Edited 7/31/2005 1:01 pm ET ET by northwestwanderer
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Sun, 07-31-2005 - 1:49pm

I am actually working on getting another picture approved which is better than the others (I think)

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Sun, 07-31-2005 - 2:29pm

I still like the picture that you had as the lead yesterday best but I'm sure everyone has a different opinion on that ;-)

I think you do a good job of conveying your interests, at least through the additional sections (the ones other than the main profile). And frankly, while common interests are nice, to me it's more important to have common *values* than common interests. That's why I wouldn't have taken out the stuff about being a man of his word, etc...you want someone with whom that's going to resonate, IMO.

And let's face it...a lot of guys are pretty shallow (LG being an exception)! Many are just going to look at your pictures and your body type and not really bother to carefully read your profile. That doesn't necessarily mean they are bad guys, they just (like many men) go for the attraction first and the other stuff later. I think you will really see a difference in your responses if you change that "other" to athletic or average (I'll be interested to know if I'm right on that).

One more note: if you are really looking for a serious r'ship, I'd take out the references to things like skinny-dipping and erotica being turn ons. They can find that out later!! For the guys who ARE reading your profile, that might send more of a "pick me for a fling" message than you want to.

And finally, there's an extra "or" in the pet lover sentence.

Sheri

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Sun, 07-31-2005 - 3:44pm

Sparkle:
First, some guys do like that a female is feminine. That is what your profile says to me. For the guys looking for nascar enthusiasts, sharpshooters, and pool players...let them look for those that are just that. My friend is very feminine in interests and beautiful like you...she doesnt want to go camping etc. so she doesnt want to attract those that do. It would be conflicting. Now if you want to go camping ...say so in your profile. If you like movies state what kind or say that you are open to compromising sci-fi with a chick flick. I don't want men to go shopping with me. I do want men to take me to concerts. So if you like going to concerts...say so in your profile. I wouldnt delete anything (unless for space) but perhaps add to it some interests BOTH as a couple can do together that YOU are interested in.

Me? i prefer a more traditionally masculine male..but i am still not going hunting with him. I do prefer that I can watch Discovery channel and Monster Garage if he wants to (because I have by myself ) but that doesnt mean I work on cars. Get what i am saying?

Again, I am with Sheri on this one...I find all of your pictures just beautiful, but my fav is the one you had up originally. I think its great that you have so many pics. I also dont think there is anything wrong with saying you are looking for a LTR (or boyfriend) if you will...there are plenty of men (i hope) looking for the same and it clearly states (to me at least) you are not trolling for hookups on match.com

Ive read you profile twice. I think you are great (and yes, someone who works out everyday is athletic...i am not seeing how you'd put "curvy" when that implies extra weight).You are gorgeous and look "healthy" (wish they had that as a choice for you) really truly. Keep us updated =)
Lizzie
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Sun, 07-31-2005 - 3:53pm

Aww, lizzie and Sheri - thanks for the advice!

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Sun, 07-31-2005 - 9:53pm
I like your new pic alot better than the last one. Just keep rotating them. You'll do fine. You are much braver than I for letting people critique your ad. I know they'll butcher mine....lol. Good luck!

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