Silly to serious....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Silly to serious....
9
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 11:09am

okay, I'm going alittle crazy this morning. Our silly emails turned alittle serious and I'm not sure what's going on. My new guy 'D', emailed me this morning talking about seeing each other soon,
I replied saying "can you wait two weeks!!?"
He replied (jokingly) "Hmmmm.... I guess I can call off the other girl friends and be
celibate for a couple weeks. LOL"
I replied: "..and yes, I think you should call off
your other girl friends!! You won't be needing them!"
He replied: "Soooooo I'm too assume we are somewhat serious? As in boy friend, girl friend?"
I replied: "umm..gosh..I do know I don't want to see anyone else. I'd kinda like it if we were boyfriend/girlfriend but I don't want to jump to conclusions or scare you off, it has to be something you want, too."

I haven't heard back from him yet. I'm alittle nervous. Biting my nails......

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 11:59am

nevermind...call off the "over-analyzer" police....! LOL

he replied: "I believe we can go down that road. Was afraid I'd scare you off. HA HA HA
I do believe we are getting along quite nicely. :-) "

whew...why do we do these things to ourselves?!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2004
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:14pm
This is why I try to have those types of conversations in person rather than through email, so you can see his facial expression & body language and hear the tone of his voice. Plus, with email, you're sitting there waiting for a response, wondering what's taking him so long, and generally just freaking out.
Can you tell I've been there? LOL
Avatar for phoenixmama
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:15pm

awwww, that's sweet.

Avatar for northwestwanderer
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:25pm

I would also not want to have this conversation by email, but that's a moot point now.

I think this is a starting point for an IN-PERSON exclusivity conversation ("I believe we can go down that road" sounds kind of vague and waffly to me). I'd still want to talk about whether he wants to retain the option of dating other people (even if he's not doing so right now), and if he has taken or will take his profile down.

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:37pm
I totally agree. I was not expecting that conversation today. It just kinda came out-of-the-blue. We were just simply talking about when the next time we'd see each other and it took a turn into that area!....
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:46pm
lol... *whew*... that must have been an unbearable 50 minutes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:49pm
I know you're joking!! LOL but things like that actually give me alot of anxiety!! And when it's slow at work....yes, 50 minutes seem like an eternity!!! LOL :-)
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 3:22pm

Congrats Donna!! It sounds like things are headed in the right direction for you and your motorcycle guy. I agree with the others, an in person convo would be in order...not to mention all the perks that would go along with those little chats. *wink*

All the best,
Libra

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 3:45pm

Gee, have they been going out that long to already have an in person convo about exclusivity?

Sometimes men joke about this, just to get an idea of where your head is at even if they are joking. I hear men complain all the time about taking a woman out a few times and even a weekend trip, and then they start making all these demands, basically expecting exclusivity. Some women become psychotic and clingy which will truly run him away. Take it all in stride, continue having fun and enjoy the scheduled trips and wait for HIM to bring it up seriously (not joking). If he continues to joke about, I believe you already gave him enough feedback to know what your expectations are (although I think it was premature) but I believe this relationship needs more time before an exclusivity talk.

JMO