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| Mon, 04-03-2006 - 11:04pm |
I've been emailing a man for a few weeks...we seem to have many similarities and good conversation.
| Mon, 04-03-2006 - 11:04pm |
I've been emailing a man for a few weeks...we seem to have many similarities and good conversation.
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1. He is not only interested in your looks! This is a good thing!
2. Why not email him back and say, I'm available on Thursday, here's my number, please give me a call to discuss the time & place. Then ALL your bases get covered. And in the meantime, just breathe and relax! The more you overanalyze, the more frustrating it will be. Just let it happen as it happens. :)
I think that you are over analyzing it too.
Hmmmm - it may be
Thank you all for your advice...I haven't done anything yet, but I think I will give him my phone number so we can discuss meeting on Thursday...I will let you know how it goes :)
Well, I gave him my phone number yesterday and asked him to call me to discuss the specifics of tomorrow's date...so far, no phone call, and no emails either. I guess he doesn't want to meet me too badly, huh? :(
Chances are, you didn't do a thing wrong - don't blame yourself!
Update--the guy did call me this afternoon, and we met this evening--all was going well (even though he didn't say anything about my appearance, other than he liked my sweater), until he started hinting about sexual things, and then admitted that he has a stash of porno...he also said that he has had girlfriends in the past, but they were just "friends" to him, so he asked other girls out at the same time he was dating someone else. I used to date a pornography addict who cheated on me, and this guy kinda felt like "deja vu"...on the other hand, he was honest about the porn, and he even offered me his jacket when I told him I was cold...no other man has done that for me before...in a way, I think I'm trying to cast out the bad stuff and only see the good stuff, because I want someone to call my own...tunnel vision.
"...he started hinting about sexual things, and then admitted that he has a stash of porno...he also said that he has had girlfriends in the past, but they were just "friends" to him, so he asked other girls out at the same time he was dating someone else."
And you actually have to ASK? This guy sounds like trouble. Yikes. What do you really think will happen if you ignore these giant red flags? He told you right up front he's into porn and cheats on his girlfriends, don't expect anything different. He was honest about being a liar? And this is a good thing?
"because I want someone to call my own...tunnel vision."
I'm just torn...he told me that he doesn't like cheaters, because he has been cheated on before; he said he has never cheated on any of his past gf's. Then he basically told me that he won't
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